(Closed) MOH Remorse …

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Katiedid722: So sorry! If she can just ignore you and drop you I’d do the same her. But at least give her benift of the doubt. Tell her exactly how you feel. I am sure things will get settled and a huge weight will be lifted off of your shoulders. Friends can be greatly dissapointing sometimes. 

Post # 4
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2247 posts
Buzzing bee

I’ve dealt with Bridesmaid or Best Man regret.  It sucks.  Now, you and I both are stuck with the choice of either dropping the Bridesmaid or Best Man or sticking it out.  It’s easier said that done to tell someone they’re “fired” from your wedding, so I’m not sure I have any solid advice.  In your situation, it might be that she feels like the wedding isn’t close enough for her involvement, or something.  So, wait a little while and see if she changes.

Post # 5
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1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

no advice but your Fiance has some good points. Aw I’m sorry that sucks. It would be really hard to plan wedding stuff if my own wedding had just been called off. Impossible for me personally so maybe she’d be happy to be replaced.

Post # 6
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2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Has she done anything to really get booted from the position other than not initiating wedding talk with you? How has she been with dress shopping, showing up to wedding parties/events?

Post # 8
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572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sorry to see yet another bride having Maid/Matron of Honor issues 🙁   I know its a terrible feeling!

My Maid/Matron of Honor was not my first choice, but I asked her any way (for various reasons), and she had been super flaky for WEEKS and weeks leading up to the wedding. She could never be reached by phone, she never returned calls or texts..was just MIA and it was freaking me out because I had no idea what he progress was on dress hunting, then alterations and shoes, accessories etc, all at a month before our wedding. Then all of a sudden she surfaces and gets into the wedding swing hard. She got the whole dress buying thing taken care of (score), shoes and accesories bought (double score!) AND alterations done like 2 weeks before the wedding. She even did a great job in planning my bachelorette party (which I knew about because she needed contact info for some of my friends etc)  A bunch of us gals had an amazing time in the mountains in Glenwood Springs the wkend before the wedding. THEN, 3 days before the wedding, YES THREE DAYS, she bailed out of the wedding because she was unhappy that one of my gf’s owed her $45 for their share of the bachelorette party and she was wanting me to pay it! I got the whole spew about how she would be uncomfy after all this being at the wedding with my friends, and how she felt taken advantage of and didnt get recognition for her busting her hump arranging the whole get together! Can you believe that???? Umm , isnt that the job that the Maid/Matron of Honor takes on when she says YES?? I was pretty much done with her after the whole temper tantrum over the $45, especially with the whole thing stressing me out so close to the wedding and her being so petty!  I ended up asking my gf, who was actually my FIRST choice anyway. I shoulda just went with my gut and asked her in the first place. To make the situation even more funny, my Maid/Matron of Honor texts me and tries to sell me her Maid/Matron of Honor dress that she had bought! LOL! Needless to say, her and I dont talk anymore, and nope she never showed up at our wedding. 

I hope things work out exactly how you want them to! Good luck!

Post # 10
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572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@misschickpea: Thank you 🙂 and I know right?!  Over $45! I mean, if she felt she was out of some cash, I would have been fine with dealing with it and making sure she was square, but NOT 3 days before my wedding! Im thinking the gal has some issues!

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