Post # 62
OMG, DYING OF LAUGHTER OVER HERE.
TO the OP:
Don’t resort to passive-agressive email or txting. Just get straight to the heart of it or else you will not resolve this. And this needs to be resolved. She went over your head on picking out the dress with NO input from you, and either she changes her order to something YOU approve OR she is demoted to guest. And can wear the fart cloud to her hearts content. But seriously, don’t suck this one up, get it fixed and get it fixed fast.
There would have been NO wearing of THAT in my wedding. Hell no. NO. Beyond the fact that it doesn’t flatter her at all, that dress is such a specific look and would only “work” with a very few dresses and wedding themes.
Post # 63
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Oh my… that’s just awful.
Well… I guess on a positive note, she’s not trying to upstage you. But that puffy skirt thing… yikes! Hopefully in black it won’t be so hideous.
Why, why, why? That’s so unflattering…if the skirt was straight, it could be a cute dress. Ugh!
Post # 65
Ok I retract my earlier statement- you can not suck it up. That is awful. I’d be at her doorstep at 8 am for a Come to Jesus talk. There’s no way in HELL I’d let her wear that dress and pretty sure this whole thing is an intentional F You! at you move.
Post # 66
haha +10000… total meatball dress. this is not okay!
Post # 67
Ohhhh no…. That’s awful. I mean….no. just no!!
Please do not accept this dress..you will regret those pictures FOREVER.
ETA: its not even cute on the skinny girls!!!
Post # 68
that dress is terrible! My friends and I made fun of it when we were trying on dresses. It doesn’t look flattering at all. I would tell her that it’s your wedding and that you don’t want her to wear the dress.
Post # 69
you tell her she returns the dress and you two shop together or she stops down and wears what she wants and you pick a new Maid/Matron of Honor. She also missed some very important appointments so maybe she should come as a guest.
Post # 70
I was going to say, oh maybe it’s not so bad…then I saw the picture. 😯
If she doesn’t respond to your dress shopping invite, you can then say “x, I just found out you ordered a dress – I’m so sorry I wasn’t more clear, it’s important to me that we choose the dress together so we both love it. I feel terrible you didn’t realize that, I am SO sorry. Let’s go together and I’ll cancel your order so you don’t have to.” pretend it’s all your fault, apologize profusely, but by all that is holy do not let her stand up in that monstrosity.
Post # 71
If she really wants to wear that dress, she can wear it. As a guest.
Post # 72
+1 I was thinking the same thing. Be careful what you say to people….
Post # 73
Wow that dress is awful. You literally can’t make this kind of situation up….
Post # 74
wow. I really thought you were exaggerating when you said it looks horrible, and thought that if you posted a pic, it’d look ok or half decent, but yeah it dosn’t at all. I’d go as far to think that your Maid/Matron of Honor does not like you. There is no way she looked in the mirror and thought dang this looks good, it’s like she’s thinking, yep this will ruin every picture.
Sorry, if she was a size 0-2, maybe. big maybe. You need to regulate as the bride.
Post # 75
Oh my goodness these comments hahaha! I think I’m going to have to go out of the room so I don’t wake my husband up! You ladies definitely made my night. On a serious note, there is no way in hell she would be in my wedding in that, sorry. I do not think you should “suck it up” or “deal with it.” This is YOUR wedding as many others have said. She had no right to order it without your approval. If she refuses to find another dress, I would find someone else. You do not want to be worried about her on your wedding day or look back at pictures ten years from now and be distracted by and focused on that eyesore of a dress.
Post # 76
I LOVED that dress on the model and when my girls tried it on it was god awful, and my girls are size 4-8. i recently saw a wedding picture on Facebook where all the bridesmaids were you SIL size or bigger in that dress and it looked GOD AWFUL!! I’d say you were going for something more classic and without the poofiness and ask if you can go with her to try some on. I’m sorry I don’t mean to sound mean but that looks just terrible on her. If she wanted to dress shop alone because of her schedule or whatever reason she could’ve tried some on and then narrowed it down to 3 or so , took pictures and then let you pick.