(Closed) MOH selected and ordered her dress without me!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 77
11535 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Oh my …

Post # 78
82 posts
Worker bee

Maybe if she put a black cardigan or jacket over it, it would balance out the volume of the skirt a bit more… I don’t know. That thing is nightmare inducing. When I read the OP, I was thinking, “How bad could it really be? David’s Bridal dresses are usually fairly simple.” You were not joking. Ho-lee shit.

Post # 79
2543 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

“If you turn the picture upside down it looks like a fancy wig.” -my best guy friend.

Post # 80
537 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Dafuq…?! I, too, was just going to say, “suck it up”, but, in the name of everything holy, you cannot allow that dress to be in your wedding. I would NOT mention how deeply unflattering and fugly it is, I would do as others suggested and tell her 1) that the dress needs to be floor length, and 2) you are not ok with black as a wedding color. Period. She will definitely be able to cancel the dress and use store credit at David’s. Also wondering if her husband hates her if he approved the dress. Now if you’ll excuse me, I have to go bleach my eyeballs…

Post # 81
8570 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

At first I kind of thought.. well.. she did kind of tell her her options were open, but then I seen that dress.

That dress isn’t flattering on her at all and the color is horrible. I agree with the PP who said it reminded her of a meatball!

Does she realize that it’s not flattering? Or does she normally wear items that aren’t right for her body?

Post # 82
3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Perhaps try and say that she can’t have a knee length dress? That is has to be a long one? That might be a way to get around things. 

But, honestly…at the end of the day, she is the one who looks bad, not you. Although I guess other guests could assume that you made her wear it. Jeeze, this is a tough one. 

Perhaps she chose it on purpose because she thinks bridesmaids etc are meant to look bad? (you know, the old sterotype). 

And WTF is wrong with her husband! How dare he let her choose that!

Post # 83
1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@prettyinpink11:  I can say I am a plus size lady and I would never dream of putting on this dress (unless for a good laugh) honestly, that dress unfortunately looks good on no one. A model might get away with it, but I would never choose it even if all my BMs were supermodels. There are a million much more flattering, much more elegant choices out there.

Post # 84
3460 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@BriansBride:  I definintely agree! The dress is ugly to begin with

Post # 85
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@hisbridekimberly:  What she did was presumptious and rude. YOU are the bride.

Let her know that the dress does not fit your vision but you think it will be a great party dress for her in the future. Offer to call the store for her to see if she can get a refund. DO NOT pay for the dress yourself. YOU DID NOT ask her to buy it. She did that HERSELF and it’s her responsibility.

If your brother gets upset remind him that you chose her style for their wedding and you appreciate it if she does the same and he neesd to kindly stay out of this.

YOU ARE NOT BEING A BRIDEZILLA. It’s ok to have a polite spine when people are being rude and then want you to accept their BORISH behavior.

Post # 86
963 posts
Busy bee

I think you need to follow PPs advice and tell her that it’s not going to work out. 

You also need to keep the picture, and in 5-10 years, show her what she almost wore to your wedding. SHE WILL THANK YOU for making her wear something else.

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@BriansBride:  I don’t think the tiniest person in the world could make this dress work. 

Post # 87
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ladies I think this is a lesson learned to ONLY put YOUR #1 cheerleaders on your side. OP, I think you picked her for convenience, not really because she is your closest alli. My closest alli was 2 hours away but still we talked on the phone everyday and she helped me stay true to my dream. I don’t understand emailing her. Why can’t anyone pickup the phone anymore nowadays? Honestly, she would just be out of the wedding. You see the signs she’s giving you now. Its only going to get much worse closer to the day. Are you having any pre-wedding parties (Bachelorette/bridal shower?) MOH’s are supposed to be over that type of thing and what she’s shown you is that she could give a d*mnn about you. I’ve been thru it before wit my SIL and she was a pain thru the entire engagement. She ended up dropping out of the wedding. You need to start looking for a new Maid/Matron of Honor because you missed one important detail… Picking someone reliable.

Post # 88
2957 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Whoa…how is her eyesight!? It would have to be miiiighty cloudy for her to think that looks good, right?

Post # 89
2346 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

WHAT!!!?!?!?!?  I saw the title of the thread and was appalled, and then I saw the pic.


No.  Absolutely no.  Even if you liked the dress, she should have had the wherewithal to consult you.  At the VERY least, send you a pic before purchasing it!!!

Unacceptable.  I wouldn’t “fire” her, but definitely let her know she can’t wear that god awful dress.  JEEZ!!  She’ll be the one out money. 

Post # 90
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wow it looks…. terrible Cry

Post # 91
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Woooow… What a monstrosity. Tell her to cancel the order and tell her that you didn’t appreciate her buying a dress without you when it is your wedding.  Clarify that you meant that she can wear any dress that both of you like (not only her, that was not the idea).  Obviously it is assumed that you would have to like the dress first.

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