(Closed) MOH selected and ordered her dress without me!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 92
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If you’re from the South, you know what I mean when I say…

 

Oh bless her heart…

 

That dress is terrible. I hope you’re able to figure a way out of this one OP! I would just tell her it doesn’t fit with the theme or look of the wedding.

 

Post # 93
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@hisbridekimberly:  David’s Bridal won’t simply cancel an order- unless there was a mistake on THIER behalf.  

They are very difficult to work with (for both my sister’s wedding and for mine)- 

You might be able to tell them there a misunderstanding between you and the Maid/Matron of Honor and that she needs to at least exchange dresses @ DB.

Even though you did not say “please go and pick out your own dress”- my guess is she misunderstood and thought it was OK to do so since you said there are so many options for her to wear.

 

It’ll be an interesting approach to try and tell her you don’t like it (yes, I admit the dress isn’t flattering on her– or almost anyone)– but I also think it’s super bold and potentially damaging to your relationship to fire her because of a dress choice.  I wouldn’t throw out a relationship with someone over a piece of clothing- even if it was for my wedding.

Post # 94
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

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@FutureDrAtkins:  That is the PERFECT gif for this situation.  ROFL!

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@BurlapnLace:  +1  Exactly.

Post # 95
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Busy bee

Well then.  It’s not often that a bridesmaid self-selects into a fugly dress.

Post # 96
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Honey bee

I wouldn’t wish that  on my worst enemy…Yell

Post # 97
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@hisbridekimberly:  WOW I literally didnt think it could be that bad…. but it is that bad…. I dont even know what to say lol.

Maybe it is an extended joke to see how you’d react. Is there any way to ask/talk to your brother in confidence and say look….obviously I dont want to hurt SIL feelings and she means a deal to me as I asked her to stand up, but I need you to keep this between us until I figure out what to say but I really hate the dress, its the worst dress I’ve ever seen. Can you help me find a way to convince her to look aruond? or transfer the deposit to another dress**** (you may have to move FAST because once they start production on it they prob cant do anything)

I dunno, I dunno what I’d do, I have no words…..ask your brother what he thinks of it honestly…and say do you really want her going out like that?

Maybe in black it wont be as bad because you cant see the pattern too much???? I dunno I’d prob take a hit and if she says she cant afford another just buy her one yourself.

Is there a chance you can use the excuse of “I know you like this dress and I said we can get “pretty much” what you’d like but…. Im CONCERNED at how the style of the dress might clash with the style of mine!!”????

eh?? eh???? eh?? use YOUR dress as a….. you know I was really hoping to go with you so I could help pull things together…..

Post # 98
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@FutureDrAtkins:  LMAO IM ACTUALLY STIFFLING MY LAUGH AT WORK

Post # 99
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@hisbridekimberly:  Holy!!! At first I was like “Well, slightly ugly dress, maybe just let it go since she will have to be the one looking ugly” but man, that belongs in a house of terror! I would absolutely tell her she needs to have something that “Better fits with my wedding theme.”  Avoid telling her that dress is the most hideous option she could possibly have picked, if possible… even if that’s true. Just… wow.

Post # 100
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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@Christy42213:  That was my exact face. Well, the female version. I’m going along reading the post like, “Ok this girl just interpretted literally that the options are limitless because she’s the only one standing up for the bride… I mean it can’t be that bad… maybe a little slutty? (judging by the first few posts from the OP). Then I saw it and was like “OH MOTHER OF GOD” while doing the shifty eyes like a mofo. One of those, “is this real life?” moments. For some reason it reminds me of a baked potato?

Post # 101
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@hisbridekimberly:   That dress is beyond hideous.  Does she have bad taste in her clothing in general?  One has to wonder why David’s Bridal would even carry a dress so awful.  It looks like a Halloween costume.  I hope you can get her to cancel the order.   

Post # 102
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

whoa… no words.. well maybe a few 😉 

Post # 103
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh. My. Days! 

Being an easygoing person so far as what people choose to wear I was going to say that surely, the dress couldn’t be that bad. Until I saw the photograph.

With respect, that “over-baked meringue” effect would be a supreme challenge to pull off even if she were a size 0. In fact, it is such a bizarre excuse for a garment that I question whether there is anyone (other than a lamp stand) that it would flatter. It is almost supremely badly designed and is almost comically unflattering.  Not that this is a laughing matter. I’m left wondering if they’d temporarily removed all the mirrors in DB that day because I cannot otherwise imagine how she could have assumed that this was a good choice for her. 

I think you have to say something. Even if you couch this tactfully and say that it really won’t complement your dress and really isn’t going to work. What’s her normal taste in clothes like? 

Post # 106
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It looks like a dirty loofah. This dress wouldn’t even be flattering on a size 2 woman, it looks like its meant for a child. 

I would tell her that while you are easy going with respect to what she wears, this does not at all suit your vision for the day. If she is not receptive to this, she’s not only deranged.. but shouldn’t be your Maid/Matron of Honor.

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