(Closed) MOH – Sister vs Best Friend

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Sounds like your friend has been there for you more than your sister has been. I think your friend should be your Maid/Matron of Honor and your sister could still have part in the wedding? Maybe a bridesmaid? Or another suggestion is either one of them married? You could have one be a matron of honor but have your friend stand first? It’s your wedding and you should do what you want!

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I would pick your friend. She has been there for you and your sister was already Maid/Matron of Honor once. I am sure if you explain why  u are picking her she will understand. You never know maybe she just wants to be a bridesmaid.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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ginatt:  I would definitely pick your friend over your sister. I’d still include your sister as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Maybe play it off like, you were my Maid/Matron of Honor the first time around, so I didn’t want to force that upon you again! 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

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ginatt:  How big is your wedding party?  Do you NEED a MOH?  I didn’t want to choose between my sister and 2 best friends, and my Fiance didn’t want to decide between his two brothers, so we are not doing a Maid/Matron of Honor or Best Man.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

 

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ginatt:  Just doing some guess work here, but if your sister is 7 years older than you, and you got married the first time in 2003 that means that she’s probably close to 40 years old (assuming you got married the first time around age 21)….If your 40 year old sister is immature enough that she would get upset that she wasn’t given the title “Matron of Honor” at your second wedding, especially if you’re not close enough that she has flown/driven to see you a single time in 6 years…then she really needs to sort out her priorities.

Honestly, I’d say you shouldn’t stress about the choice. It’s obvious you would like you friend to be MOH; you just have to trust that your sister is adult enough to be happy for you no matter who you choose.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

another idea is to just have two MOHs. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I am having 2 matron of honors.. My sister (we are kind of close but we’re 19 years apart so she is almost like a second motherly figure to me) and my best friend- who is getting married a month before me. 

I am alot closer to my best friend than my sister, but I am still having my sister stand next to me at the alter. ….that would be very hard for me to choose, can you have two matron of honors. why does one have to be a maid?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would have two! Otherwise it might cause resentment between you and your sister. I know your friend has been there for you, but your sister is always your sister. I have seen too many people pick friends over siblings and in the end, their sister was there in the end. Family first in my opinion. 

 

P.S. I had this happen to me. My best friend (who is like a sister to me, have known her since I was born) picked a friend over me. That friend ended up turning on her and our relationship was strained and she was left with no Maid/Matron of Honor. 

 

Just my opinion. 

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