Post # 1
I have chosen my FH’s sister to be my matron of honour. Lately I have been feeling a little bad because people have been expecting that I would choose my sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor.
What do you think?
Before you respond here’s why I made my decision:
– there is a 12 year age difference between my sister and I so we have never been close growing up. She was always in a different stage of life that I was so we never hung out together, had any heart to hearts, shared secrets… anything that you would “expect” sisters to do. It has only been the last 2 years that we have grown closer and now do quite a bit together, talk, and the guys get along really well (and actually work together).
– my FH’s sister is like a sister to me. I have known her as long as I have know my FH (9 years) and she has always been there for me through thick and thin. I can talk to her about anything and we hang out all the time. I think of her as my best friend. Also she has been amazing through the whole wedding process and has helped SOOO much. I have no complaints at all with her.
– my sister’s entire family will be in the wedding party: her, my brother-in-law, 2 neices (as junior bridesmaid, and nephew as ring bearer)
So now… what do you think? Please be honest, I really need some opions on this. Did I make the right choice? Am I overreacting? Or did I screw up?
Post # 3
Is your sister a bridesmaid at all? If she is then I think you made the right decision in making your FI’s sister the Maid/Matron of Honor. The only way I could see this as a screw-up is if you didn’t include your own sister at all.
Post # 4
@Gingersnap: The whole family is in the wedding party. My sister (bridesmaid), her husband (groomsmen), 2 neices (junior bridemaids), nephew (ring bearer)
Post # 5
But how does your sister feel about this? I think it would bother me if i offended my sister, especially since you daid you have gotten close the past few years. But if she was ok with it i wouldnt worry about it.
Post # 6
@Alli259: Oops, misread that as your FI’s sister’s entire family. 🙂 You are totally in the right with your decision. Is someone upset over it or are you just rethinking?
Post # 7
i think you are ok in this decision. My sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor but when my sister got married i was 13 and she was 22 – she also made her husbands sister her Maid/Matron of Honor – i wasnt offended (i think it was an excuse since the Maid/Matron of Honor doesnt nessarily have to be the witness but she told me the Maid/Matron of Honor has to be 18 to sign the marriage license) which now i call BS on but at the time i was like ok that makes sense and it didnt hurt my feelings – she still made me a bridesmaid and even told me after the fact that she should have picked me haha (she may have just been saying that ) but it made me feel good either way. i really wasnt offended at all that she didnt pick me then, or now- i was so young and it was the first wedding i ever attended so i had no idea about the ins and outs of the wedding world.
plus we werent friends then, we had nothing in common at all there was a 9 year age diffence between us. We became much better friends later on so now, if she were to get remarried and didnt ask i would have her head! haha
Post # 8
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my friend and not my sister, you dont have to use your sister if you have someone else you are closer to.
Post # 9
You sister will probably see it as a slap in the face. Y’all are blood-related, regardless of the age difference. Now, when I first read it I didn’t see anything wrong with it… until you said that his sister is the Maid/Matron of Honor. It just seems like that turns everything around, IMO. I think ultimately you made the right decsion for you. But if I was in this situation, I would either pick my sister or a friend… not his sister.
Post # 10
@Gingersnap: I was at my godsons baptism yesterday and my brother-in-laws aunt said something that inplied she thought my sister would be the Maid/Matron of Honor. It was a little awkward.
@mzlouis2b: My sister is ok with it. She was just happy that we wanted the whole family in the wedding party