(Closed) MOH someone other than sister… Opinions pls

posted 9 years ago in Family
  • poll: Did I make the right choice choosing my FH's sister to be my MOH instead of my sister? (pls read)



  • Post # 3
    2088 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Is your sister a bridesmaid at all? If she is then I think you made the right decision in making your FI’s sister the Maid/Matron of Honor. The only way I could see this as a screw-up is if you didn’t include your own sister at all.

    Post # 5
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    But how does your sister feel about this? I think it would bother me if i offended my sister, especially since you daid you have gotten close the past few years. But if she was ok with it i wouldnt worry about it.

    Post # 6
    2088 posts
    Buzzing bee

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    @Alli259: Oops, misread that as your FI’s sister’s entire family. 🙂 You are totally in the right with your decision. Is someone upset over it or are you just rethinking?

    Post # 7
    6995 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i think you are ok in this decision. My sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor but when my sister got married i was 13 and she was 22 – she also made her husbands sister her Maid/Matron of Honor – i wasnt offended (i think it was an excuse since the Maid/Matron of Honor doesnt nessarily have to be the witness but she told me the Maid/Matron of Honor has to be 18 to sign the marriage license) which now i call BS on but at the time i was like ok that makes sense and it didnt hurt my feelings – she still made me a bridesmaid and even told me after the fact that she should have picked me haha (she may have just been saying that ) but it made me feel good either way. i really wasnt offended at all that she didnt pick me then, or now- i was so young and it was the first wedding i ever attended so i had no idea about the ins and outs of the wedding world.

    plus we werent friends then, we had nothing in common at all there was a 9 year age diffence between us. We became much better friends later on so now, if she were to get remarried and didnt ask i would have her head! haha


    Post # 8
    9024 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My Maid/Matron of Honor is my friend and not my sister, you dont have to use your sister if you have someone else you are closer to.

    Post # 9
    3048 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    You sister will probably see it as a slap in the face. Y’all are blood-related, regardless of the age difference. Now, when I first read it I didn’t see anything wrong with it… until you said that his sister is the Maid/Matron of Honor. It just seems like that turns everything around, IMO. I think ultimately you made the right decsion for you. But if I was in this situation, I would either pick my sister or a friend… not his sister.

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