Post # 1
Am putting together my Maid/Matron of Honor speech for my friend’s wedding, and am a little bit stuck about what to say after I have introduced myself and explained how we came to be friends.
I’d definitely consider the bride to be one of my best friends, but the thing is that we’ve actually only known each other for 5 years, and she and her soon-to-be hubby have been together for over 10 years!
I don’t have any of the typical funny/cheesy stories about my friend’s nerves when they started dating or about watching their relationship develop.
I also think it would be a bit weird trying to impart some kind of marriage advice to them, because they’ve been living together the whole time, raised a dog and bought a house too a few years ago…so clearly they know what they are doing!
I would love to hear some suggestions of what else I could say during my speech.
Nervous Maid/Matron of Honor
Post # 2
I don’t think the Maid/Matron of Honor speech needs to be about relationship advice for them– what about speaking about what you have learned from them as a couple? I can think of some couples I know who have been together for a long long time and I am honestly often in awe of how in sync they are, and some of them were true relationship models to me.
Speak from the heart about how happy you are for them and how meaningful your friendship is. That’s really what the speech is about!
Post # 3
Share some anecdotes about the two of them or observations you’ve made about what a great couple they already are! The toasts definitely don’t have to presume that the couple are novices and need guidance. You can talk about what you admire about their relationship, and wish them continued happiness. Also think of funny/charming marriage advice or anecdotes you’ve heard from your parents, grandparents, etc. Even couples who have been together a long time can use little reminders about continuing to appreciate and love each other. 🙂
Post # 4
Here is the one I wrote for my sister’s wedding a few years back. Obviously it would be a bit different if it weren’t for a sibling, but hopefully it helps give you a few ideas.
Hi. For those of you who don’t know me, my name is _____ and I’m the little sister of the bride and maid of honor. I believe that every once in a while there is a couple who is destined to be together. The stars align and bring these two people together. Fate steps in and no matter what the world throws at them, they can handle it. This was clearly the case years ago… when I was born and _____ was given a sister.
Having a sister can be the best thing in the world. You have someone to play with, share clothes with, go on vacations with, turn to when your parents are driving you crazy, or cry to when things get hard. It’s basically a built in best friend from birth. That’s what made writing this speech so hard. Trying to find the perfect words to describe your best friend seems impossible. I couldn’t possibly say everything I want to say but I will say this…
You are the very best friend and sister anyone could hope for. You have always been there for me, even when I was upset about the stupidest stuff and just needed you to mmmhmmm in the background while I rambled on. I can trust you with anything and couldn’t be happier to be standing next to you on one of the most important days of your life. Standing here I can’t help but think of all the things you’ve taught me over the past 25 years. Here’s just a few…
- To get what you want, sometimes it’s ok to bite people
- The most important thing in the world is family, even when they’re driving you crazy
- Wine hangovers are probably the worst things ever
- There is always room for more clothes in your closet, you just have to find a good place to throw your significant other’s clothes to make room
- There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be very organized
- In order to find true love, you may have to date a few duds.
And you did find the perfect guy for you. From the moment I met _______ I could tell that he was the one for you. He completes you in a way that nobody else has before. When you get stressed (as does often happen) he helps you calm down and joke around a bit. When you met him you told me how he reminded you of our dad and I think you found the one guy who can have as much love for you as our father does.
Now, _______ I realize that you are now her best friend so I’ll have to pass the torch to you which I’m happy to do seeing as how happy you make her. And, besides, I know that you’ll never replace me as her shopping buddy.
So can we all please raise a glass now and join me in congratulating the bride and groom on the day we’ve been waiting forever for. To _______ and __________
Post # 5
How about after the first congratulatory and introduction bit, you share a best memory from being with the bride (and/or groom!) try to think less of it as a “speech” and more of just… What would you like to just SAY to the bride and/or groom? It’ll come to you naturally, and then you can always just revise once you have your basics figured out. I’m in the same position, and these things seemed to help me figure out what to do and say anyhow!
Post # 6
I gave a speech at a friend’s wedding where I was Maid/Matron of Honor and it was really just about how awesome I thought the two of them were, and how they were awesome together. For my own wedding my sister gave a beautiful speech. She told a story from Greek mythology and then related it to us. It was the only time I cried at my wedding. There is really no one right way to give a speech. as cheesy as it sounds, just speak from the heart. Good luck!
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Tip: Keep it short. Say whatever you like as long as it doesn’t drag on forever.
I’m not trying to be a jerk this is my honest tip from a guest perspective.
Post # 8
Honestly, as a guest, I don’t remember exactly WHAT a lot of the speeches I’ve seen have said. I do however remember when the MOH/BM is terrified and looks as if they want to be anywhere but standing there with a microphone in thier hand.
Practice! Practice in front of as many people as you can. Practice the cadence. Practice pausing for a laugh or an “aww.” Practice watching a youtube video that makes you cry and then immediately going into it so you can practice controlling your voice in case youre a crier (I am).
Memorize what you want to say so you aren’t just reading off a piece of paper the whole time.
Actually look at the bride and groom when you’re talking with them.
Breathe deep before talking.
Don’t forget to smile.
Also, if someone is ‘hosting’ like the bride’s parents, be sure to thank them. It’s a nice touch.
As to the content, speak from the heart, tell them how happy you are they’re taking this step. Talk about what you’ve learned from them, when you saw them resolve something, moments you’ve looked up to them.
Post # 9
I know how you feel. I hate public speaking and I’m giving a Maid/Matron of Honor speech this weekend at my best friend’s wedding. I’m going to take a couple shots (only a couple, not getting drunk, just to RELAX) before I give mine, as that’s the only thing that normally helps my public speaking fear.
I think the advice that ayunaskam :
gave is spot on, and basically what I plan on doing. I’m sure your friend will be thrilled with any sort of speech that you give. Just make it short and sweet, while still being personable.
Post # 10
I never remember speaches, quite honestly. Most guests prefer them to be short, sweet, and to the point. Introduce yourself, tell everyone how happy/excited you are for your sister and her new husband, wish them a lifetime of happiness….and then done!
Post # 11
Following! My Maid/Matron of Honor has never given a speech before in her life so I’m collecting tips to pass on to her 😀
Post # 12
1. Keep it short
2. Don’t use embarrassing or sad anecdotes from your shared past – or at all in fact
3. Be lighthearted, not too gushingly OTT re how much you love her/how wonderful she is
4. Don’t make it about you/other people, though do mention her new husband positively
6. Keep it short (did I mention that? )