(Closed) MOH speech tips…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Here is the speech I wrote for my friends wedding in may, I got a lot of compliments on it.

Good evening! For those of you who don’t know me, I am (my name), Bride’s Maid of Honor. I want to start by congratulating the bride and groom, and thanking all of you for coming here today.

My heart is overflowing with love for you two today. I know you have a wonderful adventure ahead of you and with God’s blessing your marriage will last for decades to come.

Bride, I want to note how beautiful you look today. We have known each other for about 12 years now and have gotten so close; I can’t imagine not having you in my life. We have been through the good and bad together. You have brought so much joy into my life and I know that you’ll bring that joy into Groom’s life as well.

Bride and I lived together for about six months after high school and I have nothing but fond memories. It was Bride, her dog Milo and I had recently gotten a new puppy, Lillian. We became the best of friends and my new puppy fell completely in love with Bride. It’s possible that Bride is only friends with me because of my dog.

My fondest memories have to include our obsession with pink lemonade and mini chocolate chip cookies, our bad habit of going to Target and buying everything in the store, and the worst/best of all, our addiction to Starbucks Mocha Frappuccino’s.  I don’t know anyone else who really understands my coffee habit as well as Bride does.

I didn’t know Groom before he and Bride started dating, so I can’t tell you horrible stories about him, but I can tell you that I think he is perfect for my best friend! He is one of the nicest, most easy going guys I have ever met. He is exactly what Bride needs in a life partner.  I will note, however, that the first time I met Groom was when he came over to my house to meet me and my dogs. Like I said before, Bride is just in love with my dogs as I am. I remember pretty clearly how that day went. Groom and Bride came over and I was pretty excited to meet this mystery man that I had heard so much about. Groom was so nice and friendly but there was one real factor that told me how perfect he was for Bride. He fell in love with my dog, Charlie. He has asked many times since I have known him if he could have Charlie and I’m pretty sure he and Bride have threatened to steal him a couple times as well.

I thought about the words of advice that I would like to give to the newlyweds and came up with this:

The two secrets of a long lasting and happy marriage are a good sense of humor and a short memory!

Always remember to say those three important little words…”You’re right dear.”
If you’re clever, you’ll always have the last word. However, if you are very clever, you won’t use it.

Whenever you are wrong, admit it. Whenever you are right, be quiet.
And, Groom, always remember, a happy wife, makes for a happy life! And to make Bride happy all you really need is a Frappuccino and a Disney movie.

Separately, you are two special, remarkable people, but together you are complete.

My greatest wish for the two of you is that through the years, your love for each other will deepen and grow. Years from now, may you look back on this day, your wedding day, as the day you loved each other the least. I wish you the very best. My love to the both of you.

Groom, please take care of her, she is my best friend and she means the world to me. Keep her happy and laughing. Love her with all your heart, always and forever. Enjoy every second because they go so fast.

Please raise your glasses while I toast my best friend and her husband:

Take each day and cherish your time together. Love one another and stand together. Take time to talk to one another. Put your love and your family first; your job and your hobbies second. May you live forever in love, and may love live forever in you. Cheers!

Post # 4
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Know your audience

Know your abilities as a speaker

No singing, movie quotes, three musketeer references or old college stories that contain the words “wild” “crazy” or “out of control”…cause no one wants to hear it.

Being sincere is far easier than being funny, if you don’t have the timing for it, stick with kind and lovely wishes for the couple, a fond memory or two and raise your glass to their lives together…then shut up…because we still have to get through whatever the Best Man is going to throw at us and gear up for the chicken dance.


Post # 6
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@engleman10513:  I have gritted my teeth through horrendous speech after horrendous speech…I’ve seen one weepy Maid/Matron of Honor break into Wind Beneath My Wings….I watched one literally run through the entirety of the Miracle Max scene from Princess Bride to everyone’s totally confused and kind of creeped out mortification…..one wouldn’t stop giving condescending and annoying advice to the groom, essentially telling him to kiss the brides ass all day every day, and one was this ten minute series of the same toast in like…every language on Earth….bleh

Post # 7
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Philadelphia, PA

@Birdee106:  That’s beautiful Maid/Matron of Honor speech!

Post # 8
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I have been to 4 weddings only seen one Maid/Matron of Honor speech, and the Maid/Matron of Honor just started crying through the whole thing. But it was still the best wedding I’ve ever been to.

My Maid/Matron of Honor is my little sister so I just can’t wait to hear what she will say.

Post # 9
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

– Do not spend more than 25-35% of the speech talking about your friendship.  The speech is not to toast you being maid of honor (but an introduction and cute background is great!)

– Even if you don’t particularly feel like they are soulmates, still mention WHY they are great for each other without any passive aggressiveness. You might think you’re clever but it’s transparent 


– Don’t try for funny unless you know you have some material that IS funny


– Test it out on someone so you can figure out how to shape the sentences and anything that comes off weird

– I like the idea of giving the groom a couple “tips” that relate specifically to the bride 


If anyone has tips on how NOT TO CRY when giving the speech, THIS is what I need to know! LOL

Post # 10
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Andthepupmakes3:  clear your throat..it disrupts the crying process…that and drinking water

Post # 11
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

So is a speech expected of every MOH?  I really, really don’t want to speak!!

Post # 12
3150 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@engleman10513:  I gave one a few months ago. I wasn’t the Maid/Matron of Honor but I was there the night they met an the night they got engaged. I opened by talking about my friendship with her and then about those two special nights. I’m a fairly funny person so I was able to include some jokes and it went over well. My biggest advice: keep it short. 3 min MAX!!

Post # 13
7680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@engleman10513:  We don’t do Maid/Matron of Honor speeches here, but about wedding speeches in general:

Stories work best. They are easier to tell naturally, and easier to listen to. A little bit of cute embrassment is nice, but don’t overdo it. Absolutely do not mention past boyfriends. Stories which mention the groom are fine but it’s ok if they don’t.

So I would say:  Brief interduction, (“Hi, I’m Paula and I’ve known the bride since we were 10”). One or two cute or funny stories about the bride. Say how happy she is that she’s marrying the groom. Toast their happiness. (Should last about 3 minutes).

Post # 14
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@imabridesmaid:  I don’t think there is any requirement to have a Maid/Matron of Honor speech. Of all the weddings I’ve been to, only one had the Maid/Matron of Honor speak.

But I’m with you, I’d probably turn down being Maid/Matron of Honor if it mean giving a speech!

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