(Closed) MOH speech when you dont know the bride

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Is this someone you are connected to through your husband or something?  What is your connection to her that resulted in you being MOH?  Give a little background and maybe we can come up with something not super awkward : )

Post # 4
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16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I have to ask. How do you know her at all? And how did you end up being her MOH?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Are you more friends w/ the groom?  Say how much he’s changed since being with her, how he talks about her with such love, how you can see a diff. in him since they’ve been together, etc….

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

lol well you didn’t keep a long story short, rather you didn’t tell the story at all!  i agree with the other girls, we’ll need some background info.  how do you know her and how did you come to be the MOH?  what an odd situation to be in… hopefully we can help!

Post # 8
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Oh gosh. Thanks for explaining.

Do you know anything about her husband to be?

You can always cover the somewhat more generic topics of the importance of family, the power of love, etc.

I also read somewhere once that the Maid/Matron of Honor speech was traditionally to give the newlywed couple advice for their marriage and life together. And you can easily do that without needing to insert too many personal details in.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yeah that is a tough situation.  I would focus mostly on how you met at work and passed time by chatting.  Talk about other things you all did as a group together.  Talk about the things you have in common and things you enjoy about her company.  If you have a cute/funny story or two, throw that in.  I don’t think it needs to be a long speech (I am all for the keep things to a few minutes so speeches don’t go on forever!), but just mention you are happy for her and feel honored to have been her Maid/Matron of Honor and you wish them the best.  You can definitely talk for a few minutes on all that kind of stuff without getting cheesy with the “most wonderful girl I know” and “lights up the room” type of speech.  Good luck!! 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper

@Baileyh: I went to a wedding last year where the Maid/Matron of Honor shared the advice that her grandparents had after 60 years of marriage. It was sentimental and came from a “credible” source. Would something like that work?

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Our Best Man knew my husband for 20 years and gave a speech that sounded like he didn’t know him at all, (It was something along the lines of, “I haven’t needed to give a speech since college, so thanks Joe for giving me another opportunity. I’ve known Joe since we were boy scouts, and I’m glad he found someone who makes him happy like Jane does.”)

Maybe you can just recite a poem or something and say that she is a great woman and you are glad she has found someone so compatible and you wish them many years of happiness.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I really like Gemstone’s idea about sharing advice or words of wisdom – that can be done is pretty much every situation!

Same goes with Bailzoe’s suggestion – simple, generic without getting TOO into your history with her, but sweet and touching!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I know this might be a little weird but maybe you could do a group speech with all the bridesmaids?  I feel like her sisters must have lovely things they would want to say about her!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Definitely need background info about how you know her. Maybe you could find out more about the couple by asking them?

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