Post # 17
@Gemstone Yeah that would be much better…to credit wedding advice from an older source.
@Bailzoe thats where my concern steams from actually. My Maid/Matron of Honor who i have known for years gave a very generci “shes awsome” speech, it had no stories or laughs..it was like we didnt even know each other. and all though in this case its true, i dont know her. I just dont want the speech to be “blah”
Post # 18
I would toast the couple. Just wish them a happy marriage, thank everyone for coming, and don’t forget to say “raise your glasses to toast jane & jack”. Sometimes people forget that last part and its awkward when people don’t know if they’re suppose to drink yet or not!
Post # 19
Yes definitely remember to actually toast. Even though I told the BM/MOH, the Bridesmaid or Best Man forgot, the Maid/Matron of Honor said it for him (he went first).
I wouldn’t worry about it sounding bland. They will be in such a state of bliss / everything going by so quickly. As long as you put effort into it, and come prepared, you will be fine. The problem with our Best Man’s speech was that you could tell he made it up on the spot (and probably practiced the college speech line an hour before).
Post # 20
The last wedding I went to only had a Best Man speech. I would give a toast to the couple and leave out the stories.
Post # 21
Is there a particular poem, verse, selection of a book that you know she likes? You could read that as part of your speech. Also at my wedding, all of our attendants said something and I thought that was awesome because I was only expecting the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man to give a speech.
Post # 22
We have her stagette next weekend so i think i might grill her a bit about things. Im doing the game where i asked her husband questions and she has to get his answers right…so i learnt some stuff about them from that and I hope she gets some wrong and tells stories so i get more!! *laugh*
Part of me is just nervous as well. I have never been a Maid/Matron of Honor before and i want to make sure its just right for her. I think my speech should be funny bc thats what she likes best about me…so i will have to start thinking hard.
Post # 23
i love gemstone’s idea. maybe you could do a poll of a bunch of couples that have been together for awhile–parents, grandparents, etc… and read that. i think that would be really sweet without being obvious that you don’t have much to say about the bride.
Post # 24
I love your “game” idea for the stagette. That sounds like it will elicit some stories to share. I also love pb&j’s idea about advice. Maybe you could incorporate this by having people write advice during the bridal shower (if she is having one).I guess this is what you get for being so nice to people! hahaha.
Post # 25
I agree with everyone on giving some advice. Also, you can comment on their love for each other and how evident it was throughout their ceremony. What an honor it is for all of the guests to gather and celebrate in that love, etc.
Post # 26
Thanks for all your help ladies!!! <3
MY…what did i DO before i found weddingbee!!