Post # 1
I wasn’t really sure where to post this but I figured you newlywed ladies could help me out.
I’m Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister in a month and I need to get started on my speech. She’s allowing me to toast at the rehearsal dinner because I’m a little shy about public speaking. I know that this has to come from the heart but I have NO idea where to start. If any of you remember your MOH’s speech or have had to write one before, can you give me a rough outline (did you do a story about the bride, talk about how they met, or something else?)
Post # 3
First of all, it’s OK to be nervous. You’re giving a very important speech, it’s only natural. I’ve never given a Maid/Matron of Honor speech, but I’ve taken many public speaking classes and given many speeches, so hopefully I can help you.
Start out by thanking everyone for coming. Say how much it means to your sister and her new husband that all of their closest friends and family are here to celebrate with them.
Next, talk about your relationship with your sister. Add a funny/cute story or two about growing up.
Follow that with talking about your sister and her husband’s relationship. Talk about how your observed their love grow over the past __ years. Talk about how you’ve gained a brother (hopefully you like him well enough to say that!)
Finally, don’t forget to toast the newlyweds. Wish them well in their new life together.
When you have a draft feel free to post it here, the Hive would love to give you tips/advice. Or you can PM me if you’d like, I love editing stuff…bc I’m a big nerd lol. Good luck, hun!
Post # 4
I think EAQ219 had a great outline for a speech–start by thanking everyone, give a cute story about your sis, talk about their relationship and then toast. Personally, I like to stick to things that won’t be embarassing for anyone, especially your sister and her new husband. I’ve seen Best Man speeches that are kind of embarassing (talking about old girlfriends, etc) and that’s just uncomfortable for everyone.
My sister was our Maid/Matron of Honor and she followed pretty much the same format. She told a hilarious (and thankfully, not embarassing) story from our childhood and then talked about my husband and me. It was funny, sweet and heart-felt. She definitely wrote out her speech beforehand, although by the time she gave it, it didn’t sound rehearsed/scripted. I’d definitely suggest writing something out, or just practicing what you’re going to say to yourself. When the day comes, just relax, have fun and toast your sister! You’ll do a great job!
Post # 5
I did not use notes, though I had them in my hand for my Maid/Matron of Honor speech last year at my sister’s wedding. It was rather comforting to have them just in case. I regret not saying one thing directly to my BIL, which was an inside joke that no one except the bride, groom, and one of the BM’s would have gotten, but he would have loved it.
Post # 6
Try not to stress to much. Since it will be at the rehearsal dinner, it will probably just be family and the wedding party.
Try to sound sincere. And if possible, do not use notes. It just seems to scripted. Try to memorize it as best as possible. Also, remember, no one knows what your speech is suppose to say. So if you mess up, no one will know you did.
Post # 7
ask your sis if there are any topics she’d like you to cover. when i gave my speech, my sis wanted me to talk about both her and groom b/c i was one of the few people who’d seen them a lot as their relationship evolved.
Post # 8
Sorry to hijack your thread, but I am in the same situation except its for my friend of about 2 years. I have some good stories to tell about her but I dont have any cute stories about them as a couple because Ive only hung out with both of them a handful of times. Mostly I just hear stories about him. I dont want the toast to be just about her and him as an afterthought. Any ideas?