(Closed) MOH stepped down last night – and the wedding is in four weeks!!!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mrsjtobe2013:  1.  No, you do not have to choose a new Maid/Matron of Honor.  A Maid/Matron of Honor is not a necessity for a bridal party anyways.

2.  If you do choose to address it I would do so after the wedding.  It will prevent unnecessary stress for both yourself and her.  Giving her some time and space might be a good thing anyways.

Even though your wedding sounds very low key and not a lot of work for your BMs (which is great!!), she probably still does feel some pressure being your Maid/Matron of Honor.  You are a great friend for being so understanding of the situation.  I hope you friend feels better soon.

Post # 4
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Leave her in the program as “Bridesmaid in absentia” and don’t replace her.  Don’t worry about having uneven sides or anything, as the best man can be standing up with the groom and the other GMs can escort in the remaining BMs.

If you feel like there is something else going on with her, definitely bring it up.  Keep in mind though, if she hasn’t brought it up at this point it might not be something she cares to discuss and let it go if she avoids your inquiry.

Post # 5
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@mrsjtobe2013:  i’m sure that she will tell you what’s really wrong when she feels the time is right.  perhaps she is waiting until after your wedding.  just let her know that you will be there for her if she needs anything or anyone to talk to.

you don’t need a moh.  i believe the moh typically signs the marriage license so you can just have one of your bm to do that.

Post # 6
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I say replace her only if you are anal about having even sides.

As for your friend she sounds like she being easive but it might just be because she trying to protect you from her drama, or she might really be making excuses. Either way I would let it go now and focus on your wedding.

Post # 7
3230 posts
Sugar bee

This happened to my little sister, but it was 2 weeks before her wedding instead. Her Maid/Matron of Honor kept making excuses on why she hadn’t bought the dress yet and moved out of state so she didn’t attend any of the events leading up to the wedding. We ended up with four bridesmaids and five groomsmen. Little sister just chose one of us to be her new Maid/Matron of Honor — we were all her sisters anyway — but I don’t think you need one in this case. Instead of being escorted down the aisle at the end of the ceremony by a groomsmen, we walked down one by one. It worked out and nobody really noticed.

Post # 8
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Even though we think our closest friends share everything with us there are some issues that might be to hard to talk about, even with the closest of friends.

I wouldn’t read anything into her being evasive and if in time she wants to share then she will. She sounds like she wants to be there for you and says she feels like she’s not being a good Maid/Matron of Honor because your such good friends. I’d feel the same way.

Send a heartfelt card maybe some flowers and let her know you’re thinking of her.

Post # 10
2194 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

any chance she is pregnant?  if she is very early she might be afraid to mention it (especially if she had any issues in the past)….. just the first place my head went to

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