Post # 1
I wrote about my former Maid/Matron of Honor drama http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/moh-was-kicked-outresignednot-sure-what-to-do. Although Maid/Matron of Honor was being a brat and unsupportive a few months ago, I don’t want our friendship to end. At this point it would be uncomfortable for her to be in the bridal party with my family and other bridal party members knowing the story.
The last time we talked she said she stil wanted to be friends, but she would respect my decision if I did not. I did not reply because I wasn’t sure where I stood and wanted time to clear my head on the situation. It has been 2 months and I’m still bitter about the previous situation, but would like to remain friends and have her as a guest.
I was thinking of calling and saying something along the lines of “I’m not sure where we stand on our friendship right now. The past will always be there, but I am willing to work on mending our future as friends.”
Am I silly for wanting her to be there? I’ve been putting this off for too long.
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s silly. I didn’t read your other post, but I think both of you would regret ending a friendship that quickly that was once strong enough that it made you ask her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor. If you don’t invite her to still come to the wedding, I highly doubt there will be any friendship left. It is a major part of your life and it would be pretty awkward to be friends with her if she wasn’t encouraged to come. This is one of those things that just gets worse as time goes by and you both grow further apart. You don’t want to look back on it 20 years from now having not tried to repair the friendship. Call her! 🙂 and good luck! This may even make your friendship stronger someday.
Post # 4
@peachykd: def not! she was ur friend for a reason. i lost one of my best friends after one of our best friends died. she lied to her boyfriend about something that it wasn’t okay to lie about and she lost all of us ( her best friends) b.c we couldn’t look past that and there isn’t a day that goes by that i don;t regret it and wish she was going to be at my wedding! she refuses to talk to any of us and its really sad. i would say don’t lose a friendship over this you will regret it if you do. shes ur friend you want her there perfectly normal!