- 5 years ago
So, I am to be Maid/Matron of Honor to my mom in October. She’s not held back in making this wedding extravagant thus far. I am, first of all, wondering what she expects from me. I’m sure she wants some sort of gathering to honor her, as she has a wealth of friends. But I also cannot afford to throw her a party. I am pregnant and attempting to save for my child, which is difficult as it is. She is very financially secure, but I don’t want to ask her to pay for her own party. Not to mention, she and other family members will be throwing me a baby shower soon. I’d like to do something nice for her, but I know the guestlist will be long and I am at a loss to determine, what, besides maybe a bridal luncheon, would be appropriate for a second marriage. And this I definitely couldn’t afford. Should I simply avoid the question, or express that I’d like to do something for her, but can’t afford it?
What’s more is, I am rather upset, as she has already expressed that she expects me to get a babysitter the night of the wedding…and that my mother-in-law and father-in-law are invited to attend, so she wants me to leave my 4 month-old with someone else. I know I will not be comfortable doing so, and I plan to breastfeed for the first 6 months, so that will be an issue. I can’t imagine her not wanting her grandson there, and I feel she’s becoming a bridezilla. She also casually mentioned that I need to be able to fit into my bridesmaid dress!!! In addition to all this, I live many states away. I’m frustrated and I wish I hadn’t been put in this role. Any advice in handling the situation would be much appreciated.