Post # 1
There was a thread before but it would be helpful if I could see what you guys did in your own situation and if you were me. For those of you who did not (or will not) designate one to be a Maid/Matron of Honor, what do you plan to do about toasts?
I have 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man, one of them is my sister. My Fiance also has 3 groomsmen, 1 of which has been designated the best man. The best man will give a toast. I have been to several weddings where the Maid/Matron of Honor gives a toast. So originally I figure I’ll give each of all 3 of my Bridesmaid or Best Man 1-2 min to toast. Now I think about it more, having all 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man to toast may seem excessive. Even if it’s 1-2 min/person it may also take up too much time?
Should I just pick my sister to give a toast? although she’s not too keen on public speaking and although we’re very close, she has been living abroad for a while and as such, may not be in tune with all the bits/pieces of my current life.
I also cannot pick 1 of the other 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man to give a toast ‘cuz that’ll show favoritism and I don’t want to pick 1 over the other.
Should I just not have any of my Bridesmaid or Best Man give a toast? Although I did casually mention to all my Bridesmaid or Best Man a while back that all of them will give a 1-2 min toast…They probably wouldn’t mind if I change on them….
Post # 3
What about asking who would like to speak and then get them to toast on behalf of all of the Bridesmaids – then each Bridesmaid or Best Man can have input but only someone who volunteered will speak?
Post # 4
i actually had a very similar conversation at dinner myself tonight about Maid/Matron of Honor toasts! my friends seem to think designated Maid/Matron of Honor will crash and burn when it comes to the toast (she is not a great public speaker) and another b-maid should be designated to take over if such horrible instance occurs (god forbid! and for the record — i am not worried in the least – Maid/Matron of Honor will be just fine!).
i think you should designate one bmaid to make a toast. make sure it is the one who will best represent you and your fiance and her attachment to the two of you and explain to the others that you just want one speaker to keep it cohesive and flow well.
if you think the other b-maid will feel jilted, ask her to say something at the rehearsal dinner. i think if you phrase it right and position it best with them, no one will feel hurt – people are more freaked out by speaking in public than you would think – especially at something as important (and with no do-overs!) like a wedding! even suggest they collaborate on the speech together maybe.
***oh also – to really answer your question – if you choose no bmaids to toast, i have seen that before. just make sure the best man toast is a good one!!!
Post # 5
I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister’s wedding and I gave a toast (though I truly hadn’t figured out what to say until I opened my mouth to talk…) The DJ was not too great and gave EVERY PERSON in the wedding party the mic to talk (even people who had not wanted to). It ended up as 4 BM/MOH speaking and 4 groomsmen speaking, in addition to my parents and the groom…it seriously took like an hour. Go with one-trust me! 🙂
Post # 6
I kind of think it would be weird to have all three of your bridesmaids give a toast. I think it’s a good idea to either designate your sister, or ask who would prefer to do it, or if any of them want to do it at all (my Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t do a toast at my wedding, which was fine).