(Closed) MOH toast?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

What about asking who would like to speak and then get them to toast on behalf of all of the Bridesmaids – then each Bridesmaid or Best Man can have input but only someone who volunteered will speak?

Post # 4
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i actually had a very similar conversation at dinner myself tonight about Maid/Matron of Honor toasts! my friends seem to think designated Maid/Matron of Honor will crash and burn when it comes to the toast (she is not a great public speaker) and another b-maid should be designated to take over if such horrible instance occurs (god forbid! and for the record —  i am not worried in the least – Maid/Matron of Honor will be just fine!).

 i think you should designate one bmaid to make a toast. make sure it is the one who will best represent you and your fiance and her attachment to the two of you and explain to the others that you just want one speaker to keep it cohesive and flow well.

 if you think the other b-maid will feel jilted, ask her to say something at the rehearsal dinner. i think if you phrase it right and position it best with them, no one will feel hurt – people are more freaked out by speaking in public than you would think – especially at something as important (and with no do-overs!) like a wedding! even suggest they collaborate on the speech together maybe.


***oh also – to really answer your question – if you choose no bmaids to toast, i have seen that before. just make sure the best man toast is a good one!!!

Post # 5
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister’s wedding and I gave a toast (though I truly hadn’t figured out what to say until I opened my mouth to talk…)  The DJ was not too great and gave EVERY PERSON in the wedding party the mic to talk (even people who had not wanted to).  It ended up as 4 BM/MOH speaking and 4 groomsmen speaking, in addition to my parents and the groom…it seriously took like an hour.  Go with one-trust me! 🙂

Post # 6
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I kind of think it would be weird to have all three of your bridesmaids give a toast. I think it’s a good idea to either designate your sister, or ask who would prefer to do it, or if any of them want to do it at all (my Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t do a toast at my wedding, which was fine).

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