Post # 16
It was about 2 1/2 years ago.
Sadly I I think you’re right, maybe I should take the hint and just let this one go.
I have tried with the thing you suggested a few times, tried telling that I miss her, and miss how close we were, she sats she does too but then nothing.
How do I let this friendship go? She says she still wants to be the Maid/Matron of Honor but I honestly feel like when the time comes in a few months to starting planing the hens and those fun things I’ll be left to doing so that’s why I came here for help. Do I tell her that she is no longer MOH?
Post # 17
Maybe try again. I mean it is a long time friendship so I feel giving up might not be right yet. Maybe email her again and say that you feel like at the moment the friendship is very one-sided. Bring up how it hurts when she makes trip to GC and you hear about it from others. How much it hurts that it doesn’t seem like that she is contributing to the friendship. Tell her you understand she has a new life and that she is busy but that you still want to be close friends and not just an acquaintance. Tell her you understand if that is not what she wants either but that you just want to know once and for all.
If she doesn’t respond then that is your answer. If she says that she still wants in then just let her know that it will only work if she tries too. Maybe agree on a schedule to talk once a week/fortnight and ask that she sticks to it the best she can.
Asking her not to be Maid/Matron of Honor anymore will definitely end the friendship so I would hold off until you have tried again to get the friendship back on track. Good luck.
Post # 18
i am having a similar experience. Maid/Matron of Honor is girl i’ve known since we were 4, and been best friends through high school and Uni. She moved away for 4 years and is now back home and agreed to by my Maid/Matron of Honor (we always said we would be each others). i’m the type of person who plans ahead a lot and gets very excited for my friends when I am in a wedding party. but she bascially never asked how the wedding planning was going for the first year…i thought maybe she was jelous or something b/c her bf hasn’t proposed. anyways we’re down to the wire now and she’s finally planned the bachelorette, although she left it so late that now we have to do it on a long weekend b/c other weekends have booked up between the two of us. i hope that i don’t regret my choice, and i hope you picked other bridesmaids that will step up. i think the only reason she stepped up with the bachelorette was b/c the other girls were going to plan it all if she didn’t. do u have other girls in the bridal party you can rely on?