- 5 years ago
KiwiDerbyBride: We ended up emailing the store to make a formal complaint but never got a reply, it was the manager that approached us and I can’t be sure if she was the owner as well. There were loads of witnesses, brides to be and staff alike, but no one stood up for us, they just looked guilty and uncomfortable but didn’t want to risk their bridal wear etc.
It is definitely illegal, but it still happens because no one stands up and says anything. Even in this day and age we face discrimination, we came into wedding planning expecting it to be more conservative but were still pretty shocked and hurt.
As for NZ I get this question all the time (so please excuse the rant), we definitely do not want to have a destination wedding. We have family and friends, some of whom are ill, elderly or have a disability and don’t want to make them travel; also Australia is our home, we’ve grown up here and everyone we love is here, we shouldn’t have to be driven out of the country because of our gender. I feel like we’d be giving into the inequality and discrimination we’ve faced all our lives if we ran away to another country; and the Australian government has opted into an agreement that voids any same-sex marriage perfomed outside the country, so it would be a waste of time, money and effort for us.
To everyone: Thanks for all your suggestions, I will be far more firm with my Maid/Matron of Honor next time she brings up anything wedding related. I think I held back because I didn’t want the drama and tantrums from her, but if we’re going to be waiting who knows how many years I’d rather not make my fiancée suffer through them because of my MOH’s selfish attitude. Yippeebee is right, I need to put my Fiance first.