Post # 1
So my matron-O-H is now getting married a few weeks before me and seems to be using all my ideas! Should I just accept that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery or just stop telling her any of the details of my wedding?
Post # 3
I went through this when my roommate got engaged. We started looking at magazines and having inspiration folders, and she kept adding the things that I loved and told her about to hers! Ultimately I was flattered, because that means that she thinks I have good taste! I would rein in some of the planning ideas that you have, and maybe only tell about the more minor details…that way you can still share the planning experience together, but you don’t have to worry about seeing your ideas at her wedding, first.
Are there many people who would be coming to both wedding??
Post # 4
If you guys don’t have the same friends or family I would use it to my advantage by splitting costs on things. If your do have similar guest lists I would have a frank discussion about how this is making me feel. But then again I am a rather upfront person.
Post # 5
I’m not having the traditional wedding with long reception, so I’m a little unfamiliar with what’s vogue right now–what do you mean she’s stealing your ideas? I could be wrong, but aren’t a lot of things like candy bars, photo booths, cigar bars pretty standard? I went to two weddings this summer and a baby shower that kind of used and repeated the same things. Granted, if you’re having a specific design scheme like peacock feathers in mojito and magenta that is a little suspect if she suddenly has the same or if you go dress shopping and you both walk out with the same or similar gowns.
Also, I agree with the PP–if you’re both doing a candy bar or both in love with a certain type of charger you could go halfsies. The host of the baby shower that I went to this summer spent a load of money on vases, candy containers and glass chargers that she can’t do anything with, so maybe it’d take the sting of the cost out a little and the money could be used somewhere else in your budget.
Post # 6
Eh, we all take ideas from one another on here. What’s the difference? Every wedding has their own unique touch.
Post # 7
@secondchances: this is a great idea!
Maybe you guys can spit the costs of some things! 🙂
Post # 8
I say don’t tell her anymore plans behind your wedding AND accept that imitation is a form of flattery. People will see both your weddings will be different anyway 🙂