Post # 1
Looking back now, I should have gone with my first choice instinct, but being that Maid/Matron of Honor and I have been friends longer, I asked her. Now I am sorry i didnt go with my first choice! My Maid/Matron of Honor owns a cleaning business, is a single gal, and works like a dog. I mean 14 day stretches are very common for her. So anyway, when I asked her 3 months ago, she was super thrilled and said YES YES YES! We talked about the bachelorette party, her dress, shoes, details, anything and everything. We did go dress shopping and found the perfect dress that we both loved, so it was ordered and came in 3 weeks early. That has been the ONLY time we have gotten together since we started planning the wedding. For the last month or so, now all of a sudden she takes a week or more to respond to a text or phone call and its driving me nuts! I know she had a scheduled alterations appt on Sept 3, but “cancelled it” because she was entertaining a male friend at her house that wkend, and now I have no idea if she did go at another time, or even if at all. I dont know if she did get shoes or any accessories or anything! We have our hair trial this saturday, thats been scheduled for 3 months, that she commited to, and now again, no reply to my texts, no returning phone calls. I swear I want so bad to tell her how she is wrecking my nerves with all her dissappearing crap, and tell her forget it and go back to asking my first choice. Then again I know if I do that my new Maid/Matron of Honor could never get the same dress or even anything that isnt off the rack since the wedding is in 5 wkends. She is a good friend but I think its total crap to be pulling this business with me. Its our wedding, and I think that she should be a little more respectful with her time, my time, and what is going on. GGRRRR!!! Anyone else have Maid/Matron of Honor regrets but moved forward anyway since the wedding was so close?
Post # 3
OMG, I hope this doesn’t happen to me. I’ve posted a few things about my friend being really busy and I wanted to ask her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor but I’m not sure if she will have time to fit in what is expected of her. She is also very flaky.
When you asked her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor did you ask if she would be able to fit things wedding related into her schedule? She might not have even thought about that. Like “YES YES YES I’d love to be in your wedding as the MOH” but really did she think about whether or not she could handle the responsibility?? I am going to ask that question for my Maid/Matron of Honor because having been in a wedding recently, I know there are times when I rather not do wedding related stuff, but that’s what you have to do for your friend and the position you’re in. I think people (BM’s MOH’s) don’t understand where us brides are coming from until they start planning their own weddings. If she has already been married then she should understand! If not, then that’s probably why.
Maybe she also feels like all you do for the last year is talk about everything and anything wedding related. It’s fun to do that if you’re talking to us bees because all of us are planning weddings, but if your friends are not at that part in their lives, maybe they feel like this is alllllll you think about.
Try calling/texting her to see if she wants to go out for a drink or see a movie. Anything not wedding related. Maybe she will come around. I hope this gets better for you, as you said your wedding is 5 weeks from now!! Good luck!
Post # 4
I left her a long message the other day..and I guess she sensed the stress/panic in my voice when I pointed out my inability to reach her lately.. thankfully she called me last night.. we talked, i found out what has been going on with her (work is crazy as usual) but thankfully her gown is in alterations as we speak, her hairstyle, shoes, etc is all taken care of. She is now working on a bachelorette party/girls wkend, and she promised me she will do her duties as a friend and Maid/Matron of Honor. Phew, Im so glad thats resolved, I was getting scared! I even told her I am making her spend the night with me before the wedding so no stupid sh*t happens lol