Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor is one of my best friends. We’ve known each other for 10+ years. I love her to death, but some of the things she is doing is making me not happy with her!
A month and a half ago, my Maid/Matron of Honor, BMs, mom and I all went out to pick a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. They all agreed on the same dress, and said the price was fine. The sales lady told us that they needed to be ordered ASAP to make sure there is time for alterations before the wedding. All of my BMs have ordered/paid for their dresses except for my Maid/Matron of Honor. Luckily, 3 of those dresses have already come in, but I’m upset that she hasn’t even ordered hers yet. She told me back in May that she was going to order it on a specific date because of her pay schedule. She didn’t order it. I hate to keep asking her, but I did mention to her this weekend that I was worried about it either not coming in on time, or what if the dress was discontinued, and she told me that everything should be fine and that she was going in two weeks to order it.
She is planning my bachelorette party. Nothing elaborate, just a weekend at the beach with my girls. She kept asking me for a list of people to invite, telling me that hotels were going to fill up quickly (we are going on a holiday weekend), so I gave her a list. She said she had already picked out a hotel and was going to price it per person and send everyone on my list a FB message to find out if they are planning to go, and to send the money ASAP so we can book the place.
I talked with one of my good friends the other night and asked her if she had gotten the info about the party, she said no. It kind of upset me a little because I was under the impression that this info was sent out two weeks ago when she told me she was going to do it.
I understand that my wedding isn’t anyone else’s top priority but mine, but ladies, please don’t say you’re going to do something and then flake!
Post # 3
Sounds EXACTLY like my Maid/Matron of Honor…it sooo sucks! She delayed and delayed ordering her dress and come to find out she didn’t have the money to do it so I paid for half… :-/ Because she was procrastinating with the dress I decided to have another Bridesmaid or Best Man plan the bach. party (I am SO glad I did cuz it was so organized and was exactly what I wanted). My Maid/Matron of Honor is supposed to do my slideshow and I am starting to get worried that it will even get done on time. I will text her or call her and she will not answer me at all or she will take a couple days and then answer me. It’s like WTF!?
So, anyways, I feel ya! So sorry you have added stress because of your Maid/Matron of Honor 🙁
Post # 4
Ugh I’m sorry that you have a slacking MOH! Can any of the other bridesmaids pick up her slack?? Maybe she’s busy? Honestly, when you agree to be in a wedding, there are things that are expected of you! I’m busting my butt for my sisters wedding, and I have another bridesmaid (her BFF) helping me out and doing some planning. If she wasn’t there I’d be behind for sure, and tearing my hair out! Maybe she needs a helper? Also, the dress, that needs to be ordered! Can you just order it for her, and she pays when its sent in?
Post # 5
She knows all of my BMs, we are actually all good friends. My Maid/Matron of Honor has been a Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor so many times, we figured she was the best to plan it. She said she WANTS to plan it. The other BMs have offered to help, but she hasn’t reached out and asked them for their help.
She lives right next to me and she works, but she’s not that busy…honestly, her job most of the time can be pretty slow.
No, the dress has to be paid for before they will order it. I refuse to pay for her dress for her. It sounds harsh, but I loan her money all the time (she always pays me back eventually). I know I shouldn’t judge what other people spend money on, but since we live so close together, I get a little resentful when I see her coming home with shopping bags and random stuff. I am paying for all of them to have hair and make-up done. She’s known for 6 months that she was buying a dress…