- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my absolute best friend. However, lately, I’ve become more and more upset by her lack of effort.
She has yet to get her dress. I’ve been pretty laid back about this whole dress thing. I told all my bms to pick a dress they liked (it didn’t have to be from a bridal store), just in the right color blue. Well, she knows she has difficulty finding dresses and that whatever dress she does find would more than likely have to be altered. Despite the many times I sent her suggestions on dresses I found she might like, she didn’t get a move on actively searching for one until this weekend (Um, I’m getting married in less than a month).
Well, this weekend she finally started looking, but not before asking me about what would happen if she didn’t find a dress. I told her that that wasn’t really an option (in a nice way) and that if she couldn’t find a dress in a store, go to David’s Bridal and figure out what size fit best, then order one from their online collection that ships quickly and get whatever alterations need to be made. Then she proceeds to tell me that she just doesn’t like the color blue I picked, like a pool color, and can she wear a different color than the other girls. I didn’t really care, so I asked Fiance and he didnt’ like the idea. So I said no, it needs to be this color, or close to it.
She calls me this weekend from a David’s Bridal and says she’s found something she likes and they’re looking to see what store has her size to ship it to her. Then she proceeds to tell me, no offense, but this is a really ugly color. Who says that?!? What does she expect me to do, change my whole decor and make all the rest of the girls go buy different dresses!?!
I feel like I made it the easiest I possibly could on my bridesmaids by giving them almost complete reign over their dresses, besides the general color it had to be. Yet, according to her, I’ve made it more difficult because I should have just told her what to buy. But I feel like if this were true, she would have just ordered one of the many dresses I sent her as suggestions.
I never expected Maid/Matron of Honor to be like this, especially during this important time. I’m so frustrated and hurt by her attitude. I’m normally a very upfront person, but I don’t even want to discuss this with her because I don’t want to get into this so close to my wedding. I should mention that she’s out of state from me and while I realize that may have complicated things, only one of my bridesmaids live in the same city as me and I haven’t had to deal with this issue with the rest of them. I wouldn’t have cared as much if it were anyone else, but I just didn’t expect this from her.
Any advice is appreciated. Otherwise, thanks for listening to my vent. 🙂