(Closed) MOH wants to be "different"?!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7271 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Maybe a bouquet that is slightly different? 

I was a Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding where the bride wanted everyone to have the same hairstyle and then wanted mine to be different- not sure if you’re having them do their hair though.

Otherwise are you doing speeches? I think it’s pretty obvious who the Maid/Matron of Honor is if she and the Best Man do speeches (I’ve given speeches as Maid/Matron of Honor as well).

I guess if you really want to do something special than go for it, but don’t feel like you have to do something to make her stand out on your wedding day. I don’t plan on making my Maid/Matron of Honor stand out but I am privately  giving her an extra gift because she planned my shower and bachelorette party with little to no help from the other girls. If she’s been extremely helpful maybe you can do that?

Post # 4
7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Lauracpiper11:  It’s always obvious who the Maid/Matron of Honor is. She’s the one standing closest at the ceremony, and sitting closest at the reception. She is probably also listed in the program as Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 5
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh wow.. different dress color definitely your choice, not hers. In fact, nothing should be her choice lol. My advice would be to give her a bouquet that’s a little different than the other girls. Maybe a different color flower that pops (a little) more! But the whole thing is totally up to you, not her. She can suggest, in my opinion, but nothing more than that. 
Good luck! 

Post # 6
1778 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Different hairstyle? Different jewelry? A ribbon on her bouquet? Hair accessory?

Post # 7
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I was going to suggest a different bouquet too, or maybe a sash if it works with the dress? Or some other special accessory. I’ve seen the Maid/Matron of Honor done differently before, I don’t think it’s weird, but I also don’t think you have to if you don’t want to.

Post # 8
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Slightly different bouquet, if you decide that you want to do that, even.

Post # 9
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I say put a brooch on her dress & make her bouquet a little different.  

Post # 10
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

The Maid/Matron of Honor is actually supposed to have a slightly larger bouquet than the rest of the girls, from my understanding.  And I get that you want your vision and maybe she’s going about this the right way, but it’s really something some girls are proud of to be Maid/Matron of Honor and they want people to recognize that.  I’m Maid/Matron of Honor in my friend’s wedding and I didn’t ask for a different dress, but would have felt special if she recommended it or a different color.  Everyone knows who the Maid/Matron of Honor is, yes – but not in the pictures you don’t always!  Anywho – if you have a certain vision, I totally get that – I want all my girls in mismatched dresses so no one will stand out either that way.  What about adding a sash or something? 

Post # 11
3194 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Something that might look elegant with that type of dress is a simple, thin beaded belt to make her stand out. 🙂

Post # 12
8471 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MsSparklyBee:  +1! Great idea!

Post # 13
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

my sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and we’re just going to do a sash on her dress. if that’s too much for you though i like the different bouquet option

Post # 14
1877 posts
Buzzing bee

I love the ideas of a special belt, brooch, or another accessory like  statement earrings.  I don’t like the idea of a different bouquet, because she will already be holding your bouquet for part of the ceremony.   

Post # 15
2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I gave my sister a different bouquet (our colors were orange/ivory/gold with a pop of turquoise; Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets were orange and ivory and MOH’s was turquoise and ivory).  However if you want something even less than that, my best friend had her Maid/Matron of Honor bouquet have an extra little thing of rhinestones around the stem (yes, “little thing” is the proper term I believe).  That way the Maid/Matron of Honor felt a little different, but it was not visible at ALL in pictures.

Post # 16
1112 posts
Bumble bee

She will be the one closest to you, listed separately as Maid/Matron of Honor in the wedding program, who holds your bouquet at the altar making hers twice as big.

I think she will stand out quite enough.

She can get over it…hah. Just reassure her that she IS special, but don’t change your wedding day for her.

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