Post # 1
So, my Maid/Matron of Honor is kind of a “always a bridesmaid never a bride” girl. She’s been in literally like 12 weddings.
I’ve known her since highschool and she’s a really great person and a wondeful friend to me, she just has somewhat of a needy and “me. me me” personality.
I want long navy sweetheart chiffon dresses for my bridesmaids and she’s asked me 4 times if she could have a different dress or a different color dress. I asked her if it was because she didn’t like them, and she said “No, I just want to stand out because I’m the MOH”
I love the girl, but I am not changing my vision just because SHE wants to stand out. Um.. I’m the bride. I stand out. At any rate, I told her I would do something special for her to have her stand out on wedding day, just not a different dress. Anyone have any ideas on what I could possibly do to let her have a little bit? Any input would be appreciated.
Post # 3
Maybe a bouquet that is slightly different?
I was a Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding where the bride wanted everyone to have the same hairstyle and then wanted mine to be different- not sure if you’re having them do their hair though.
Otherwise are you doing speeches? I think it’s pretty obvious who the Maid/Matron of Honor is if she and the Best Man do speeches (I’ve given speeches as Maid/Matron of Honor as well).
I guess if you really want to do something special than go for it, but don’t feel like you have to do something to make her stand out on your wedding day. I don’t plan on making my Maid/Matron of Honor stand out but I am privately giving her an extra gift because she planned my shower and bachelorette party with little to no help from the other girls. If she’s been extremely helpful maybe you can do that?
Post # 4
@Lauracpiper11: It’s always obvious who the Maid/Matron of Honor is. She’s the one standing closest at the ceremony, and sitting closest at the reception. She is probably also listed in the program as Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 5
Oh wow.. different dress color definitely your choice, not hers. In fact, nothing should be her choice lol. My advice would be to give her a bouquet that’s a little different than the other girls. Maybe a different color flower that pops (a little) more! But the whole thing is totally up to you, not her. She can suggest, in my opinion, but nothing more than that.
Post # 6
Different hairstyle? Different jewelry? A ribbon on her bouquet? Hair accessory?
Post # 7
I was going to suggest a different bouquet too, or maybe a sash if it works with the dress? Or some other special accessory. I’ve seen the Maid/Matron of Honor done differently before, I don’t think it’s weird, but I also don’t think you have to if you don’t want to.
Post # 8
Slightly different bouquet, if you decide that you want to do that, even.
Post # 9
I say put a brooch on her dress & make her bouquet a little different.
Post # 10
The Maid/Matron of Honor is actually supposed to have a slightly larger bouquet than the rest of the girls, from my understanding. And I get that you want your vision and maybe she’s going about this the right way, but it’s really something some girls are proud of to be Maid/Matron of Honor and they want people to recognize that. I’m Maid/Matron of Honor in my friend’s wedding and I didn’t ask for a different dress, but would have felt special if she recommended it or a different color. Everyone knows who the Maid/Matron of Honor is, yes – but not in the pictures you don’t always! Anywho – if you have a certain vision, I totally get that – I want all my girls in mismatched dresses so no one will stand out either that way. What about adding a sash or something?
Post # 11
Something that might look elegant with that type of dress is a simple, thin beaded belt to make her stand out. 🙂
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my sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and we’re just going to do a sash on her dress. if that’s too much for you though i like the different bouquet option
Post # 14
I love the ideas of a special belt, brooch, or another accessory like statement earrings. I don’t like the idea of a different bouquet, because she will already be holding your bouquet for part of the ceremony.
Post # 15
I gave my sister a different bouquet (our colors were orange/ivory/gold with a pop of turquoise; Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets were orange and ivory and MOH’s was turquoise and ivory). However if you want something even less than that, my best friend had her Maid/Matron of Honor bouquet have an extra little thing of rhinestones around the stem (yes, “little thing” is the proper term I believe). That way the Maid/Matron of Honor felt a little different, but it was not visible at ALL in pictures.
Post # 16
She will be the one closest to you, listed separately as Maid/Matron of Honor in the wedding program, who holds your bouquet at the altar making hers twice as big.
I think she will stand out quite enough.
She can get over it…hah. Just reassure her that she IS special, but don’t change your wedding day for her.