(Closed) MOH wants to give a 10 minute toast

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9057 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@JenPen:  I’m sure she’s over estimating how much time she’ll want. Ever had to do a presentation for school or something and think it was soooooo long, but you do a timed run and its really only like 3 min.  I’m fairly certain this will be just like that.

Maybe closer to the date let her know you’d like to keep speeches to 5 min max. 

Post # 4
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@JenPen:  I was at a wedding where the MOH did a 10 minute toast/speech. It was hilarious…there was even a slideshow. 

If she wants to do this for you, maybe you should give her a chance. She obviously cares enough about you to have stuff to talk about for 10 minutes! Even if she does end up giving a 10 minute toast, I’m sure there will be lots of time for other people to also give toasts. 

Post # 6
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@JenPen:  Welcome to the bee! 🙂

Post # 7
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree with the PPs, however…. that is WAY too long for a speech.  Most people won’t get the jokes/personal stories.  Tell her she has 3-5 mins max, and plan with your DJ to “awards show” her = meaning he plays music when her time is up!

Post # 8
2963 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ten minutes is a speech, not a toast. Ten minutes is way too long.

Post # 9
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

That is way too long, if I was a guest and that happened I would be playing Angry Birds on my phone under the table (rude I know but I can’t listen to someone talk that long with inside jokes & personal stories etc…boring). I think 3-5 min max is acceptable, 10 min is a speech!

Post # 10
9145 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@JenPen:  I don’t think she realizes how long ten minutes really is when you are giving a speech.  Ask her to keep it to one page typed 12 point font (or two if you’re generous) and it should still be well under 10 minutes.

Post # 11
936 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

How does she know how long it is? Has she rehearsed it? If not I’m sure she’s overestimating. That being said, 10 min is too long. If she’s telling inside jokes and such that’s going to be boring to the guests not in on the joke. I did see a toast once that lasted that long and one of the bridesmaids ended up taking the mic from the groomsman to the relief of everyone in the room. The bride is normally pretty laid back but even she was getting upset at the speech.

Post # 12
1155 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yeah ten minutes is way too long. I say 3 is better, 5 max. At my cousin’s wedding, her MOH went on for what was probably 7 or 8 minutes but felt like eons.

Short and sweet is best.

Post # 13
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Bazinga: amen to that- especially the angry birds 

Post # 14
7564 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would talk to her sooner rather than later. Her feelings are much less likely to be hurt if you let her know what’s up before she writes it or gets excited about it. 

Post # 15
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

In my family we do toasts at the rehearsal dinner, so all the family and most of the close friends get them out of the way, haha. That could be a good solution… she can still give her toast but it’ll be to a smaller audience.

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