Post # 1
Here is the deal, I had a best friend all threw college but over the last two years we’ve drifted alittle but since the engagement she’s really been trying to rekindle the friendship. Then I have a friend who I met the last two years of college who we have not grown apart and she has been very excited by the engagement. She is one of those friends that is honestly happy for me and will be happy with anything I chose. My BFF from college, not so much. I do not feel she will do her best to make my wedding day as easy for me as possible. My mother is even nervous that they day will be all about here. Then my fiance has a sister. We’re friends but not all that close because I’ve lived two hours away. Now I’m moving to Cleveland and that could change. Who do I pick?
Post # 3
I say you wait it out. You’re not getting married until next September….give it until September to ask people to be in your party. Maybe it is too early since you are moving to Cleveland and could become good friends with your FI’s sister.
Post # 4
That is a great idea! Is it ok to wait? Also, Is it ok NOT to have one at all?
Post # 5
I think it’s totally ok to wait. You have like 15 months to go!!! If anybody asks just say it’s too early for you to decide, you have other stuff you’re working on. Most time lines i read say "pick your wedding partY" about 10 months until the wedding. And it is totally OK to not have one at all. You could just have all bridesmaids instead of no Maid/Matron of Honor. But whoever stands next to you would be considered that, but you could always decide on the order later. I say decide in 3-4 months. You might be more secure about your decision then. Better to wait, I say, than make it too early and wish you could go back in time and change it.
Post # 6
I think waiting is a great idea in this situation, especially with the time you have! When I got engaged we weren’t sure if we would have a wedding party stand up with us at all. We did mention this, though, when asked about wedding details. After about 6 months we decided to have a wedding party and officially included people then.
For two of my closest friends from out of town, I did say from the beginning that if I ended up with a bridal party I really wanted them to be in the wedding. However, I didn’t mention any specifics regarding being Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid with the eventual Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 7
I think waiting is good too. Are all of the girls you mentioned BMs? You’re just trying to figure out who to make MOH? And if you don’t choose anyone inparticular to be Maid/Matron of Honor, you could change out the duties of Maid/Matron of Honor. Like one person stands next to you during the ceremony, one person signs as witness, one person gets the honors at the reception etc.
Post # 8
Also keep in mind that it’s your wedding, so you get to make up the rules. Maybe you are going to have two MOH’s maybe you are only going to have bridesmaids. Maybe you are just going to have a house party. It’s up to you.
Post # 9
I also agree that you can wait at least another 5-6 months before you need to decide on a Maid/Matron of Honor. I too noticed that after I got engaged, all these friends that I haven’t spoken to in years came out of the woodwork to rekindle our friendships and started talking about how they couldn’t wait to come to our wedding. I guess it’s sweet that weddings can reunite people but it’s weird how it’s also the way people fish for invites or claim Maid/Matron of Honor status. Don’t let that sway you!
Post # 10
For the sake of your sanity…wait it out! See how things go with all of them and by this time next year the person who should be your Maid/Matron of Honor will hopefully reveal themselves. It’s also more than okay if you don’t want to choose anyone as a Maid/Matron of Honor, there’s nothing wrong with having all BMs.
Post # 11
Pick whoever is closest to you; my Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister, easy choice for me; good luck!