(Closed) MOH with absolutely NO sense of style! Why me lawd?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well I have more than 2 attendants but I followed lots of other bees advice in doing the mismatched look – I picked a line, a colour, and a length and let them choose from there. I knew if I didn’t I’d have some dressing like hooches and some dressing like my gma and the overall cohesiveness would be out the window. So maybe try that approach? There’s plenty of lines that aren’t crazy expensive, and there’s also some websites where you can get discounts of regular ‘designer’ bm dresses (which is the route we’re going – in the shop the dresses are 200+ but on the website we’re ordering from they’re only 120ish.)

 

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I told my two bridesmaids that I wanted them to wear something blue that wasn’t strap less. They managed to find a classy, simple, dress that we all loved and it was below budget (I’m paying for them). So we were all very happy!

 

Hope your girls manage to find something that would suit you all!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Overjoyed:  Yeah I’d say you just have to tighten your guidelines a bit. You aren’t being a bridezilla, at all! My girls actually prefered to have a few guidelines. I guarantee you, they want to look their best and they want you to be happy with your wedding look. But if you’re dealing with someone with no sense of style, you realize of course, and she probably does too, that she needs a bit more help. 🙂

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I can relate… 2 out of 3 BMs are my FI’s younger sisters and we really differ in tastes. We’re in the shoe shopping phase … dear oh dear:(

For the dress I had pre-selected 5 styles in one specific brand, and they had to pick one of those. Maybe this approach could work for you? If all else fails, you can pay for the dress if your budget can absorb it?

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d send some suggestions their way – just because you said they could chose, doesn’t mean ou can’t help facilitate the process!  

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Overjoyed:  What if you sent her some samples of dresses that would work. If she is having a hard time spending that much – what about looking elsewhere?

I *LOVE* modcloth for finding dresses. But there is also dilliards, macys, forever 21, etc etc etc. I think you could find some cute things and show her that she doesn’t have to break the bank and can still be within your theme/colors.

Navy Blue $52Teal with Rosette $64Teal Empire $59

Just some ideas to help get started….

EDIT: Here are a few more:
Teal with pleats $35

lol –this one is in ‘stretch jersey’ so she’ll feel like she’s in lycra!

Post # 13
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3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Overjoyed:  i’m just seeing this for the first time. a yardsale? dead. lol

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Uh, the idea of spending 3 digits on a dress I don’t want and probably won’t wear again is pretty gross to me too. Especially if it requires me to wear something strapless. Not everyone is comfortable in a strapless bra. Just saying.

I think you need to bring down your expectations a little and find something in HER price range, not yours, or else buy the dress for her.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Bebealways:  

This.

Also what’s with all of the scoffing about yard sales? They’re a legitimate way to score deals, and I’ve bought some very nice stuff at them. Not likely that she would happen upon a dress in her size to your specifications, but there is no harm in looking.

The only thing I find repulsive in this thread is the condescending, patronizing attitude you exhibit toward someone so dear to you that she is your Maid/Matron of Honor. How hurt do you think she would feel if she saw this thread?

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