(Closed) MOH woes

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t really think you’re being a drama queen.  You had good reason to want to know the time.  I think sometimes the bridal party plans things, and when the bride asks for specifics, they can freak out, because they feel like they’ve put more money or energy into it than they thought they should have.  And feel like you are being demanding by asking for more.  (Even though, in this case, it seems as though your sister didn’t put too much work into it.)  I think it’s also possible that she’s trying to make something of a surprise, and doesn’t want you to ruin it.  (I’ll admit, that one’s far fetched in your circumstance.)

A few things to think about.  Is it possible that outside of the bachelorette you have been "demanding" about stuff?  Have you been on top of the girls more than you need to be?  Have you asked them to pay for an expensive dress without check with them about finances?  Have you been making unsolicited requests regarding your shower?  Did you ask/expect her to throw a bachelorette?  After a shower, gifts, dresses, etc., a bach might be too much for her.  have you just been talking nonstop about the wedding, and it’s wearing on her?

Or maybe it’s something else.  Is she jealous?  Is she older and single?  Perhaps she’s running into problems with the other Bms.  (Ie. they aren’t paying for anything.)  Does she feel like for a bachelorette party she has to be a host and pay for everyone’s way? 

Post # 4
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1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

No. Not at all. She is. She was too vague and it seems a bit undisisive. I agree with Tanya.

Try to sit down and talk to her about it. That should help.

Post # 6
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

Uggg, sorry travelchick.  I think other than "is" and "the", the word "jealous" has to be the most popular word on WB.  In a strange way, I was kind of hoping that you were being hard on her.  That way it would be something you could fix to make it better….

I have empathy for girls who are jealous.  Ironically, I got married fairly young, so I was never in the situation.  But I think as a teen, I always felt like, I would never get married.  I think many of us who are experiencing jealous Bms, would probably lose some objectivity and become the jealous Bm, if the shoe was on the other foot. 

The only thing I can think of is to make sure you’re not bombarding her with wedding details.  Your mom sounds supportive.  So maybe you can go to her for what you need.  Once the wedding is over, she’ll probably settle down.  And regardless of how well she does as Maid/Matron of Honor, be sure to give her a sweet gift with sappy sisterly sentiments.  That will remind her to appreciate the special people she does have in her life. 

Good luck.

 

Post # 7
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278 posts
Helper bee

It could also be that she’s frustrated that she’s not able to accomodate every single person.  Event planning isn’t always the easiest.  She probably expected people would keep the weekend open, hoping to surprise you one way or another but when people actually declined – it probably stressed her out too much.  Another thought is that she isn’t much of an event planner, even if she wanted to be.

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