(Closed) MOH/Bridesmaid Drama

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This doesn’t sound like too big of an issue. I would just tell the bridesmaid that she isn’t being left out – there just really isn’t anything she can do. Be sure and tell her that if Maid/Matron of Honor comes up on anything else that needs doing, she’ll let bridesmaid know. If she’s being really witchy about Maid/Matron of Honor, I would ask her nicely to leave those comments to herself as you are clearly friends with both and don’t want to be dragged into any bridesmaid drama that might ensue from it.

I am so glad I haven’t had any bridesmaid drama (yet)…nothing but family drama this way. Lol

Post # 3
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Helper bee

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Bg1309 :  your bridesmaid really shouldn’t be dragging you into this. I’m assuming both the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man are adults, and they should be able to resolve this like adults without dragging a third party into it. I wouldn’t bring anything up about it yet, but if she tries to drag you into it again, just say that she needs to voice her concerns to the Maid/Matron of Honor, because you are not involved in the planning process of the bachelorette party. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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Bg1309 :  Ughhh, that’s so annoying. They really should leave you out of it…you’re the bride for goodness sake! But unfortunately, in most stories I hear of bridesmaid drama, the bride always gets dragged into it somehow! Good luck!

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Honey bee

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Bg1309 :  What?! I think most BM’s would be happy they don’t have to do much! LOL

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m only asking because I am stuck in a bad situation like this presently – being a bridesmaid and not being consulted about anything but then being expected to blindly hand over money.

For the bachelorette, is the bridesmaid being consulted about costs, being allowed to give her opinion on budget? True, they shouldn’t come to you unless it is absolutely necessary, but if the Maid/Matron of Honor is planning things and expecting people to pay, they should be included in planning. That may not be the case in your situation, but I am only asking because if that were me, I’d be upset to not be consulted.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Hi Bee,

Sorry for the delay in writing back.

That was my only fear, but if it is dinner/drinks that doesn’t seem to be anything out of the ordinary that would make cost being an issue. That’s pretty standard so I think that probably wouldn’t apply here.

I’m sorry you are being pulled in. I hope everything gets sorted out and it goes smoothly. Enjoy the exciting time!

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