(Closed) MOH/bridesmaids issue (long, sorry)

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Did your Fiance already ask all 6 guys? Maybe he can cut back his list.  If he knew you didn’t have too many girlfriends, why would he ask so many guy friends?

 Is there a neighbor, different cousin, aunt, old college roommate you could ask?If you’re stuck and can’t think of anyone else, your cousin and FBIL’s girlfriend might be your only options.

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

You could do the uneven thing and have two men walk one bridesmaid on each side.  My Fiance has a large family too.  So we are having family only for the 4 groomsmen and the best friends be ushers.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

to be honest i wouldn’t ask someone your not very close with. Being a bridesmaid is an honor and should only be reserved for those closest to the bride. Thats how I feel at least. It’s ok to have uneven…especially since it will be even numbers…4 and 6. Just have 2 groomsmen walk 2 bridesmaids. It won’t look bad. and i’m not trying to be mean, but this is your wedding…not your mothers…so ultimately it is your decision. You do what you want. 🙂

Post # 8
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168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Uneven bridal parties are increasingly common these days – maybe you can show your mom some photos to help win her over. Personally, I’m way against asking people to be in your bridal party just to even out the sides. And if I were the distant cousin or casual friend, I’d be a little annoyed to have someone ask me to be in their wedding, put forth major cash to be in the wedding, when it was clear it was because the sides needed evening out rather than the actual relationship I had with the bride.

If you’ve never brought it up to your guy friends, it doesn’t hurt to at least broach the topic with them – you’d be surprised sometimes. Are you close with your mom? I had my mom stand up as my Maid/Matron of Honor – not to even out the sides but because she’s one of my best friends.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

There’s no reason why should have to ask two girls your not even that close with to be your BMs. They shoud be ppl you want around you on your wedding day, to help you get ready and be there for you hen/if you get nervous. There’s nothing wrong with having uneven sides! I’m doing the same thing. Smile

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

You need to be surrounded by people who are important to you, not stand-ins.  I have 3 on my side, and he has 2.  I am not too concerned about looking even because all 5 people are important in my life, or his life, or both.

Post # 12
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168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Just keep thinking about it for a while – don’t let yourself get worked up. It can be a difficult decision and you’re in a tough situation with FI’s side being so big. I have no sisters, no close female cousins, and only one close female friend. I asked my mom, my female best friend, and DH’s sister since they are incredibly close. Had Darling Husband wanted more than 3 people, I would have wondered what to do and been in a position similar to yours. Sometimes it just doesn’t work out that you have the same number of same-sex people on each side. If you guys haven’t asked anyone besides your MOH/best man, think about it for a while and don’t rush your decisions. Look at this time as a good opportunity to expand your friendship with your Maid/Matron of Honor as well.

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