(Closed) MOH…is she the one?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Is she the one?
    Yes : (4 votes)
    19 %
    No : (6 votes)
    29 %
    Wait and see : (11 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 3
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    778 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    Just have a talk with her.  Let her know that you love her and are happy to have her as a friend despite recent difference and disagreements.  Speak with her about what your vision is for the wedding and how you would like for her to be a part of that vision.  Ask her if she thinks she can do all that you  need for a Maid/Matron of Honor to do for you, and if she can’t ask her what role she would like to have in your wedding so she can be a part of your special day without over extending herself and still be a part of your day. 

    My closest cousin/best friend was recently married and told me that she couldn’t afford to be in the bridal party.  She will instead sing a song at the ceremony and will shadow me that day as I shadowed her onher day.  We were with each other and supportive to each other.

     Good luck either way!

    Post # 4
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    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I agree with Chela its important to just sit over lunch and talk. I would have her be apart of the wedding but I would not have her as my Maid/Matron of Honor only because of the recent events. Then again this is your decision.

    Post # 5
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    2434 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    She’s obviously going through a lot of stressful stuff right now.

    Perhaps ask her to be a BM- then if things between you improve, you can ask her to be Maid/Matron of Honor.  If things don’t improve, you can ask one of the other BMs to be Maid/Matron of Honor.  That way she’s included, but you don’t have to ‘demote’ her to Bridesmaid or Best Man.

    Post # 6
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    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    You have time to wait it out and see what happenes with both her finances and your relationship with her.  Don’t jump too fast into this.  I did and then things really fell apart between my friend and I to the point that she didn’t even come to the wedding 🙁

    Post # 7
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    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2007

    This is a tough one….we already know that she’s jealous of your relationship.  Weddings usually brings out the "ugly" in the jealousy.  And money issues only aggravates the issue more.  It sounds like your gut instincts is telling you that she has the potential to create a lot of drama.  I’d be hesitant to make her the Maid/Matron of Honor, but maybe consider her to be Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Just be prepared to address Bridesmaid or Best Man dress money issues, makeup/hair, etc.

    Post # 8
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    1238 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    I think you need to talk to her before you make any decision.  I made the mistake of picking my moh too soon and then didn’t have the guts to change my mind.  I think that you might have to be willing to pay her way and pay for your own bachelorette and/or bridal shower if you pick her to be your moh.  Is this what you want?

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