Post # 1
I got married last weekend and it was the best day of my life! Everything went so well!
I just had a concern with my two MOHs, they both forgot to give me the card because they were so busy that day, and both had mentioned that they forgot. I ended up seeing both of them a few days ago, and one of them forgot it again, and the other did not bring it or mention it.
It’s not about the gift, but it’s about the gesture because they are my two best friends. My husband says he doesn’t care whether or not they give us anything, but I can’t help but feel a little uneasy about it, because I know that I would never forget anything like that when it came to their weddings.
I just don’t want to have to track them down or ask them for it. They’re lives now are both much busier than mine, and I don’t know if they’ll remember again. We don’t see each other too often. Any thoughts? Should I just let it go and hope for the best, or just mention in a month or so causually that they still never gave me a card?
Post # 3
You just have to let it go. They both were obviously busy that day and had a lot going on. There’s a lot that goes into being a bridesmaid, and honestly they probably put more time and effort into your wedding then someone who showed up with a card. Be thankful they were there for you on your special day, and focus on that!
Post # 4
I’m guessing your friends did a LOT as MOH’s and they probably figure their efforts, time, and energy for you and your wedding were more of a gift than a card. I’d forget about it and focus on the wonderful things about your wedding (and the gift of their friendship).
Post # 5
Just let it go.
They were there for you on the day of the wedding, they stood up with you while you got married, that alone should be “thought” and “gift” enough.
If you mention it, you will seem like you are fishing for gifts/money.
Let it go, if they really forgot, they’ll remember eventually. If they just say they “forgot” because they felt bad on the day not having a card to give you, then reminding them will just seem a bit pushy.
Post # 6
I would let it go. Bridal party does SO MUCH helping you get ready for your day, they spend a lot of money, they give up their schedules and priorities. It those things your best friends did for you on your day. A card, is nothing, if they mention it, enjoy it, if not enjoy everything they’ve already done for you.
Post # 7
i am notorious for forgetting cards. if i donthave a big enough bag to fit the envelope in, it usually gets abanadoned on the car seat or, more likely, the counter of my home.
being a Maid/Matron of Honor is insanely hectic. you may not have thought that your wedding was hectic, but thats probably because you had a great Bridal Party helping things run smooth and making sure you didnt worry about a thing.
bottom line: were they helpful and supportive of you on your wedding day? if so, please stop wasting any time worry about a card and be thankful that you werent in some of the nightmare Maid/Matron of Honor situations i read about all the time on here!
Post # 8
Wow, you have to let this go. If they were your MOH’s, there was a lot of behind the scenes work going on to make sure your day was amazing. IMO- they should be excepted from any card/gift-giving obligations.
Post # 9
Just let it go. They stood up beside you as your MOHs…does it really matter that they forgot a card? They gave you their time, money, and love to support you in the whole wedding process. That should be enough!
Post # 10
I know it seems so trivial and I don’t want to make our friendship into something like that. I guess it was just surprising when the only two people who forgot were my best friends! but it’s nothing to disrupt a friendship over.