- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
Background, I have two MOH’s one Matron the other a Maid, both are family and I love them dearly. Matron is on the verge of divorce and maid just got dumped. I want to offer them encouragement and support, but am at a loss.
Matron has already expressed some negative vibes towards my own upcoming wedding. Nothing huge just general bitterness about her situation and questioning marriage in general. I listened and let her vent. Afterwards she apologized for making the comments. She basically is just sour on the concept, but did reassure me that she is not bashing my upcoming wedding or marriage. I listened. Didn’t argue or anything I just let her vent. That was a few weeks ago.
Tonight I found out the Maid’s SO just up and left. I dont know the full story, and from I could see of them together they were great! I’ve called her to check up and made plans to go out tomorrow evening to help get her mind off of the situation (for a little while anyway). The poor thing is heartbroken and distraught! I want to find the idiot that made her cry and make him cry!
In any event, I dont quite know how, other than to lend anear and listen, and just generally be there, how to help them and be sensitive to their situations. Normally when I was single it was easy. Throw on a pair of stillettos, grab a bottle of wine and have good old man-bashing Girl’s Night Out, followed by a good next day sleep in and cry day (post booze induced slumber party). I’m still down to party and man-bash, dont get me wrong, but I feel hypocritcal doing it because I am so happy now. (My Fiance isnt perfect but hes my moosh, so I’ll keep him).
How did you bee’s help your friends through break-ups and/or divorce just weeks before our own weddings? How can I be excited and happy for myself while my friends are miserable? And how do I (or should I even bring up) anything wedding related, without seeming like an insensitive cow? Specifically the Bridesmaids shoot that I organized as part of thei wedding party gift. I don’t want them to feel as though they are obligated to attend (citing current emotional circumstances for both), but I do really want them there. The shoot is in two weeks! Any help or advice would be much appreciated. Thanks a bunch!