(Closed) MOH/Sister stress/venting, long, sorry

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@greenmint:  For me, personally, i would kick her out and not make-up unless she initiates it.  I understand that it will be stressful for your mother, but you are all adults, and if you can’t get along, they you shouldn’t be near each other.  Simple as that.

Is there perhaps jealousy involved?  Is she jealous of how well you get along with your FI’s sisters? and she wishes you two could be like that, and is jealous that they are becoming sister-like to you? So she is trying to put them down to convince you not to hang out with them?  Other than that, I am at a loss.  Good luck!

Post # 4
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with @Lee_Ann, leave her out of the wedding party.  Her behavior is horrid and I wouldn’t put up with it.  You don’t need that stress while planning the wedding.  Besides, it doesn’t sound like she is having much fun with being a Maid/Matron of Honor anyways, why put her in this honor?  Your sister is upset that you are becoming closer with them?  Well she’s kind of pushing you away.  How does anyone expect to stick around with her childishness and bad attitude?  I say surround yourself with people who are supportive, i.e. your FSILs.

Post # 5
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you need to make up with her for the sake of the family. If you guys start getting along in the future, you don’t want to have any regrets and she is your sister. I say offer to reinclude her in the wedding party, but then don’t talk to her about the wedding except for what’s absolutely necessary and stop inviting her to hang out with you and your FSILs.

Post # 6
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with PP’s, you really don’t need the added stress on suck a special day, especially since you have been trying for sometime to make some type of relationship with her.

The only other thing I would suggest, if you feel strongly about trying to keep sometype of a relationship, and really think this will put the nails in the coffin, maybe don’t have her as you Maid/Matron of Honor, though I could see where that could cause even more drama.

Sorry I don’t have any better advice. Good luck with everything, and I hope you work something out that will help relieve your stress.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I can’t believe she would act like that, the child in me would kick her out and be done with her! however you will have it on your conscience all day and may regret it in future, talk with her and give her the opportunity to vent what her problem is and then the both of you can thrash it out and come to an understanding. good luck

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