Post # 1
So I made my little sister my moh despite everyone thinking it would blow up in my face. She lacks follow through and drama seems to “follow her” around. I love her and adore her so I made her my moh.
Fast forward to planning my shower. She is in serious melt down mode because I have ideas about my shower. She said because she is my moh and she is paying she gets to decide everything. I’ve always wanted a tea party shower with hats and treats. I am not asking for a lot but she is seriously being unreasonable. She wants it to be her party. My feelings are so hurt now. No one wants to feel like their shower is a burden or drama.
I am so sad now ;(
Post # 3
Do you have other bridesmaids or maybe your mom or an aunt could step in to help advocate and “redirect” her to things that are closer to your style.
I would say though that seeing as a shower is hosted by someone else for you, you do need to allow some leeway. Since you are the guest of honor and not the host, you can’t really expect to control all the details.
Post # 4
That’s why I love this site. I think you hit the nail on the head. I do try to control too much esp. when it comes to her. She tends to need a lot of hand holding but I don’t have the bandwidth to plan ANOTHER thing with this wedding. I will just let her do whatever and leave it in God’s hands. i just need to let it go. So not worth the fight.
Post # 5
@utcalgirl: I vote that if you are really set on the tea-party theme, you do a girls night for you and the ladies after the wedding/honeymoon has passed to reflect and hang out. Make it tea-party themed and you can do whatever you want in that situation!
Post # 6
Well, she’s kind of true. You can tell her your preference, but it’s really up to her to do what she wants. I’d try and just let that go, because in the big scheme of things will it really matter what theme your shower was?