(Closed) MOHZILLA!

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you keep a MOH like this?
    Drop her : (8 votes)
    47 %
    Keep her : (9 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 3
    40 posts
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Woah! This sounds more like a horror movie. I would consider dropping her down to a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Tell her that she would have less responsibilities and it wouldn’t be so much work on her.

    Post # 4
    276 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Wow.  That’s rough.  Is your sister married?  Divorced?  Single?  It almost sounds like she’s having a hard time coming to grips with her younger sister getting married.  If this were any other person, I would say drop her.  But, you’re pretty into it now and she’s your sister.  I think it would only cause a rift (possibly irrepairable) between the two of you.  Wedding planning aside, are you two of you close?  If you’re not close and you asked her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor out of obligation, then I could see you considering asking her to step down.  My sister is also my Maid/Matron of Honor and she’s older than me as well.  It would hard to cut her loose, but at the same time, some of the things she’s saying to you hurt all the more because she’s your sister.

    Post # 6
    76 posts
    Worker bee

    Sorry, but getting rid of your sister as your Maid/Matron of Honor is going to cause way more problems than you are already having.

    I think the best idea is probably to just step back and take a deep breath and then stop expecting her to do anything special for you. Ask for help and support elsewhere and let her just show up at the wedding. If you need special help, ask one of your other bridesmaids.

    It kind of sounds like you have both thrown around some pretty harsh words during the course of things. Hopefully once all the hooplah is over you can make things up to one another.

    Post # 8
    613 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    maybe she’s just jealous because you are younger, prettier, thinner, whatever? I just dont understand why she is acting so clueless and she’s married. Did she not have a wedding with BMs and a bridal shower? I would probably drop her, but that’s my personality. Since the wedding is so close, just stop talking to her about it. Dont give her any Maid/Matron of Honor duties for the week before or of the wedding because she will just complain and you will be stressed enough.  Instead, talk to your closest Bridesmaid or Best Man about the situation.  I am sure the others will pick up the slack.

    Post # 9
    6 posts
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Maybe you should buy her a book on how to be a good MOH! I feel for you. Your Maid/Matron of Honor should be the one person who will do whatever you want. Sounds like there is no reasoning with her. Maybe you could just start including some of your bridesmaids to help with the things the two of you cant agree on. After all this is the one time that it is ALL ABOUT YOU! and it should be.

    Post # 10
    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    hm, that’s an incredibly tough situation. as much as i don’t want her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor from what you’ve said, i think world war III would ensue given her sensitivity and anger about the wedding.

    i think onash has a good point–perhaps you could just continue with her as Maid/Matron of Honor and just accept that she will not look like or behave the way you want her to, but that it’s okay because it’s not going to ruin your wedding.  if you keep hoping/trying to get her to change, you may end up pulling your hair out and focusing on that issue instead of celebrating (not to mention making things worse with her). if you go into your wedding with a mindset that yes she will make a scene and be unpleasant, you will be more prepared and calm, and more importantly be able to let it slide off your back (albeit in a difficult, slow, perhaps slightly painful manner).

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