- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
I am getting married in 24 days. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s 40 years old and I’m 26. I try to talk to her about all of this stuff she keeps doing, and everytime I get no where fast! She argues everything, and will not listen. It’s making me mad.
She has been fighting with me since I made her my Maid/Matron of Honor. First is was the dresses.. she said she would wear a plastic bag if I wanted her to, and she really didn’t care..I also asked her her preference in jewlery, she said she had none.
Then I have a lunch meeting with her and I start talking to her about what I would like them to wear and she starts up..
I don’t like silver. I’m not wearing a necklace. I’m going to wear this old shawl in my closet. I was like…You said you had no preferences. She thought she was just going to go jewlery shopping by herself and not include the bridal party and just buy whatever she wanted..
Long story short we get into an arguement because she says: I DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY I NEED TO TELL YOU WHAT I AM WEARING AT YOUR WEDDING..DO YOU WANT TO KNOW WHAT COLOR PANTIES I’M WEARING TOO?? I finally had to have a conversation I didn’t even want to have nor did I feel I should be having it at all..
It’s my wedding, and I picture you guys looking a certain way, I don’t want any surprises is what I told her. She still didn’t understand.. I’m just a control freak!
Then the MOH & BM dresses came in and she didn’t like the way she looked in hers because she’s like 230 lbs. So she makes a huge deal out of her dress and brings everyone down from their wedding high.
Bridal shower.. She had it 45 minutes away from where I lived and everyone else too. So it was 45 minute drive there and back.. So I asked her not to have it at her house, be she pretty much said tuff shit. She did not put an RSVP by date on the invitation then left on vacation for a week and half right after sending them out, so people did not rsvp.
I asked her if she was going to follow up with people that had not RSVP’d..and she got all crazy with me..telling me she’s not supposed to do that, and she is not going to hound people to come to my shower. I told her its on any Maid/Matron of Honor bridal party planning list and she can google it. She asked me to e mail the links and she ended up hanging up on me and calling everyone anyway. But she was mad at me because someone said they couldn’t afford to come to my shower. She said it made her feel uncomfortable. She also told me anyone that doesn’t come to my shower is not my true friend. 🙁
So I sent her an e mail with several links that she requested. I also mentioned how much I appreciated her throwing me the shower, but if it doesn’t come off that way at this point, it’s because she is arguing with me WAY TOO MUCH and it’s pissing me off. She ended up sending me a reply calling me an ungrateful bitch, and thats the reason people are not rsvping to my shower and its not because it involves over an hour of driving. Then she stops in the middle of the e mail and calls me, and leaves a message. Calling me a bridezilla, and telling me F-YOU..I’m just like wow.. she really does not like to be prooved wrong. Needless to say hearing your sister talk to you like that really hurts.
I ended up attending the shower, and about 10 people came. She has added my friends she met at my shower on her networking sites and is trying to be buddy buddy..It’s weird. My Bridesmaid or Best Man also told me she has been calling her talking bad about me, so I feel a Maid/Matron of Honor should not be doing that, especially my sister!
Does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions??