(Closed) moissanite dream ring or grandma’s diamond?

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Which would you pick

    dream ring

    grandmas diamond

    birthstone ring

  • Post # 3
    3132 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I think either your grandmother’s stone or your dream ring would be the way to go.  Although the opal ring would be gorgeous, remember that opals are very soft, and it probably wouldn’t stand up to the test of time the same way a moissanite or diamond would.  I would have loved to have a pearl ring, but I nixed that idea for the same reason.  Too soft.  🙁

    Post # 5
    1515 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I voted for your grandmother’s ring.  It may be because I find it have more of a sentimental value, but of course, that is just me. I was lucky enough to get my fiance’s great grandmother’s ring.  Ultimately it is your decision of what you would prefer more.  They’re both beautiful rings.

    Post # 6
    8375 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Opal is lovely but it’s a soft stone and it doesn’t hold up very well with day-to-day wear. I would be afraid to damage it, honestly.

    As far as the moissanite, if it’s your dream ring, it may just take you longer to save.

    I do not like the idea of asking your mom for your grandma’s ring. If she has been wearing it and has not already offered it, I think it would be very tasteless of you to ask for a stone from it. Your mother probably enjoys wearing it for the sentimental value it brings her. Plus, if your SO feels like he should purchase a ring for you in a traditional sense, this doesn’t help anything. I would not feel right asking my mother to give me my grandmother’s diamonds (unoffered)

    You could always go with a smaller ring that you can afford if you want to get engaged sooner and then you could save for the larger moissanite down the road.

    Post # 7
    1139 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think you should just by a ring that you love that you can afford.  If that’s the moissanite ring you posted then get that.  I don’t think it’s really appropriate for you to ask your mother for the ring from your grandmother.  It’s likely that she knows you are headed toward engagement and if she wanted you to have it she probably would have offered it to you.  Yes, it will likely be yours some day anyway, but not yet and your mother probably needs some time with it to mourn her mother.

    Post # 10
    1065 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I agree with PP that now might not be a good time to ask your mom for your grandmother’s ring.  I would probably get a colored gemstone.  If you can afford the moissanite though, get that.

    Post # 11
    640 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    You need to tell your mother that you and your SO have discussed getting engaged.  Then, you wait to see if she offers the ring.  You do NOT ask her for the ring, do not hint at wanting thhe ring, or discuss any potential plans for “splitting” the ring.  That is your mother’s ring and it’s up to her to decide what to do with it without you or anyone else putting in your two cents.  It’s not your part to ask for it or it or any part of it. 

    I have the family stone.  From HIS side of the family, not mine.  I never ever asked for it and was totally blessed that his parents loved me enough to give it to DH to give to me.  And, for the record, DH has a sister who did not get the ring.  However, she’ll eventually get the other family stone. 

    Post # 12
    3974 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    In the end, it’s ultimately up to you, and your mother.

    If your mother is not okay with taking stones out of her mother’s ring, I say get your dream ring. That’s just my opinion though. 🙂

    Post # 14
    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    You know your mom best, but I would think if she hasn’t offered the ring, it’s not in your place to ask for it.  This wouldn’t prevent me from hinting that an engagement may be close and mentioning that you guys are thinking about what to do for an e-ring. 

    I personally would love to have had the option to wear something from my grandmother. 



    Post # 15
    1088 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I voted for grandma’s ring, but only if your mom offers the stone to you. Just because she’s not wearing it now doesn’t mean she’ll never wear it again. My mom rotates her jewelry all the time. The other day she was wearing one of my grandma’s rings that I hadn’t seen in years. I don’t think it would be right to put your mother on the spot by asking for it.

    I agree with PPs that opal is beautiful but it’s not an everyday stone. It will not stand up to the wear and tear that a diamond or moissanite will. Have you considered white sapphire? That’s another durable stone that can be very affordable.

    Post # 16
    8375 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    You only said she wasn’t wearing it on Christmas, not that she has completely stopped wearing it. There could be lots of reasons she isn’t wearing it constantly. If your mother doesn’t know you are talking rings, do what BanditGirl suggested!

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