(Closed) Moissanite Engagement ring!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Welcome and congratulations on your engagement!

I think many bees can relate to your issue. Once you yourself are convinced, how do you convince the person who will actually be giving the ring to you, especially when they feel like they have a whole load of pressure on them from others?

I think it takes time, so definitely give him that. Obviously it’s important that he knows that you genuinely love this stone, and not just because it is the cheaper option. As you know, moissanite has many other merits other than cost, so perhaps you can start discussing these. 

I understand fearing that he will look cheap, especially as the man buying the ring, but really anyone close enough to you to know it’s moissanite should also understand and appreciate your reasoning. If you’re anything like us, you may want to focus on some of the following points. Both my Fiance and I try to make the most ethical decisions in life wherever possible, so the fact that the stone is not strip mined was a big one for us (the environmental issues were a concern here, not just the political/humanitarian). I don’t place much emphasis on a stone being natural either, but I know others do (and that’s fine, of course). It also has a higher refractive index, which means it shows more flashes of colour. Some people like the white flashes of diamonds (and so do I), but I LOVE colourful sparkles, so here again moissanite was perfect for me. The cost, of course, is also important. We were prepared to part with a large amount of money, but with moissanite we found a stone that suited us better for the above reasons AND allowed us to use the extra money elsewhere. That’s not a bad reason either. Some people accept the high price of diamonds and others question whether it really reflects their worth. To me there is no right or wrong here because everyone puts different values on different things that are important to them, but here is an (old but) interesting article that may help your Fiance understand the diamond industry a little better. 

Other reasons people can be wary about moissanite are due to concerns about it holding up as an heirloom and having lower resale value. As the closest contender in hardness to a diamond, there’s no reason why a moissanite ring wouldn’t last just as long. The resale loss as a percentage of total cost I’d say is true, but unfortunately most people find that reselling a diamond loses them more money in actual dollars.

I think sometimes it comes down to the sentiment that is attached to diamonds. Sometimes people can change the way they feel, but there’s not necessarily a right or wrong – it’s like convincing someone who loves living in the countryside that city living is better. But ultimately, you should be choosing first and foremost based on what makes the two of you happiest, not what others will think. Your choice won’t affect anyone else but the two of you. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

Can you buy emerald/step cut moissanite? I thought it only came in brilliant (lots of little triangle) cuts?

If you can, could you post me a link???

Post # 6
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568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I had the same problem! College broke kids and my SO grew up dreaming of buying his girl a diamond ring. What I did was tell him everything you love about a moissy. Say they have more fire/shine and you will love that. Say you hate that many diamonds are conflict diamonds and you cant really be 100% sure you wont get a conflict diamond. find articles about how diamonds arent worth as much as they make it seem like so you think it is a bad investment to put money into a diamond when you get almost nothing back out of it. After about a month of begging, I convinced my SO to spend less on a moissy ring and I know I will love it πŸ™‚ (idk if he bought it yet but it is getting SO close!!) Good luck!

Post # 9
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568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Kelshock:  awesome! Also if you tell him its what you want, how can he deny giving you what you want? πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Kelshock:  Ah yes. No, I’ve seen those. I just asked because you posted a step-cut.

Post # 11
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483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

You know, I was dead-set on a diamond too, and my SO was so against them. But I stumbled upon(litterally) this site and learned about moissonite and fell in LURVE! I wanted good coverage on  my size 7 finger, and I still wanted a colorless stone, but I wouldn’t want a 10k ring on my finger. I still love diamonds, but my $$$ go much further with a moissy! And if he’s that worried about what your friends and family think, It’s not like you have to go marching around town telling everyone that it’s not a diamond!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

@Kelshock:  this was an article i stumbled upon that i showed to my SO that helped convince him why moissanite is the way to go. πŸ™‚

http://diamondssuck.com

not a very kind URL name, i know, lol…but it IS a good read. hope it helps! =)

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

@Kelshock:  oh goodie! congratulations! just saw pics of your ring, too, and it’s stunning! never seen a radiant moissy before, yours is lovely!

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