(Closed) Moissanite Ladies: Can people tell the difference in your moissy and a diamond?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Busy bee

Yes, moissanite looks different. It’s very pretty, but it looks different.

If you are not going with a 2.5 ct diamond because the quality would be low and it would also throw your retirement, home savings, and vacation plans into flux, all it means is that you can’t afford a 2.5 ct diamond. Almost everyone can funnel their savings into an expensive stone.

‘Affording’ a stone means you can buy it in cash with money you have easily on hand that does not impact your savings, future, or day to day expenses and splurges. It soumds like you could buy a diamond but can ‘afford’ something smaller or a moissanite. No shame in that, most people are in the same boat. Buy what you can afford. Lots of people buy things they can’t afford because they have the money. Don’t be one of them.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Who knows, if they have been able to tell they haven’t said so.  I personally can usually tell the difference in certain lights based on how the ring gives off light (rainbow for moissanite vs. cool tones for diamond).  That’s only because I own both and know what to look for though.  If 2.5 carat diamonds are normal in your circle I don’t think most people would question it.  If you think you will be ashamed of having a moissanite ring you shouldn’t get one though.  Maybe go with another gemstone like shapphire or emerald.

Post # 34
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Busy bee

you may want to consider an antique cut- that’s where i think moissanite really shines “no pun intended”. especially in forever brilliant or forever classic; which are not only compatible with typical vintage diamond colors available but also less stark and “suspiciously colorless”.

also, some cuts face up much larger than others. if you’re interested in something off the beaten path, a rose cut for example. due to the cutting style, a 1 carat (diamond or moissanite) could “face up” as a 2 carat+.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee

yaara :  Oooh, I obviously second this suggestion, as I’m on the waiting list for the new 8mm Amora Gem August Vintage Rounds (OEC’s) in G/H/I range. 

For that matter, look into buying a true antique diamond with a good cut. Then your SO gets to have what he wants, and you won’t have to support de Beers. 

Post # 36
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Busy bee

ms2mrs94 :  People will know, but most will be too polite to comment.  A colorless, VVS, ideal cut 2.5 Ct diamond costs significantly more than $17,000.  If large rings are common in your area, in certain lighting it will be pretty obvious your ring performs differently than a diamond.  Have you considered a colored gemstone as an alternative so your ring is mind clean?  I don’t think a moissy makes sense if you’re concerned about what others will think before you even have the ring…

Post # 37
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Blushing bee

A lot of my friends have moissy’s and from the ones I have seen, the bigger the size, the easier to tell its moissanite, which is no problem because we all know who has moissanite within our friend circle.. no one cares or thinks twice about it. 

I’d say most people may notice it’s not a diamond due to it’s size/color/ and the way it throws rainbows but I highly doubt anyone will care or even think to ask you. The only problem I see would be if you were just trying to pass it off as a diamond. Just rock the moissy and I bet it will look great

Post # 38
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Blushing bee

FWIW, I think the more common question is “where did he get your ring?” rather than people saying “oh wow is that a diamond?” Hopefully people aren’t so forward such that they would ask you the specific stone, but you never know anymore lol

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

I went with Forever Brilliant, so there’s some warmth to it, and it’s 1ct, which is a pretty average size in my circle. I do volunteer to almost everyone that it’s a moissy, though, because I really love that we went that route. However, *everyone* assumes it’s a diamond at first. I agree with PPs that the size of your stone might make some people question whether it’s a diamond or not, but the appearance won’t.

Post # 40
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Helper bee

duchessgummybunns :  Would you mind sharing a picture? It sounds so pretty πŸ™‚ Hope this isn’t creepy but I could swear I saw your username with a really nice ring but not sure.

Post # 41
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Newbee

Echoing what a lot of commenters have said: most people have no idea what moissanite is, much less have any clue of what to look for in identifying one.

However, someone with a sharp eye may notice that it doesn’t have the same appearance as a diamond, especially if you get such a large stone (and if people compare it to their own diamond).

Personally, I can’t tell the difference between a super-clear, expertly cut cubic zirconia and a diamond, but I can tell the difference between moissanite and diamond — not always at first glance, but if I have the chance to scrutinize it, then yes.

The double refraction of moissanites is more and more obvious the higher the carat size. The lines and facets of the stone do not appear as sharp as on a diamond. That’s one of the biggest clues.

There’s definitely also the “rainbow sparkle” factor, which other commenters have mentioned. It’s beautiful, yes, but also clearly not diamond-like.

The best advice I can give, especially considering your lifestyle and social circle, is to get a smaller carat size. People in your social circle probably know what diamonds look like very well, and the fact that your stone is a non-diamond will be increasingly obvious the bigger you go.

I have a 0.5-carat classic moissanite. It’s so small that the double refraction isn’t readily apparent, and the warm colour can mislead people into assuming it must be a diamond (e.g. “Why would anyone buy a simulant that’s NOT bright white?”). So that’s an option, but I suspect you wouldn’t like that.

Anyway, nobody has ever guessed my stone is not a diamond, at least to my face. Besides, I’m very open about the fact that it’s a moissanite; I love it and I wish more women even knew about its existence! Some people will judge you (I assume), but others are so thankful to hear of a beautiful diamond alternative, that it’s totally worth any potential negativity.

Post # 42
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Busy bee

ms2mrs94 :  Forget all these Bees who are trying to analyze how much money you have or don’t have, what “afford” means and whether or not you can afford a 2.5 carat diamond. It’s like they want you to justify yourself and your choices to them–and there’s no need to do that. Especially the comment about how if you shop at Macy’s no one will believe it, but if you wear designer clothes they will (hahaha). 

A good friend of mine is a literal millionaire (Wall Street Broker). She wears Eddie Bauer every chance she gets, drives a Prius and sends her kids to public school. Not all people who are wealthy are flashy. I think some of it can be a regional thing–I’m in NYC where a lot of people are extravagently (old-money) wealthy, but not at all flashy. Women I know definitley spend thousands on gorgeous, soft-leather purses. But it would be considered tacky to carry anything with namebrand letters all over it say, “look, I’m expensive.” I imagine things are different in the land of the Kardashians. 

In my opinion, some people who are anti-Moissanite often don’t like it because they ARE so interested in trying to show off their status with their ring. If Betty & John spend $10,000 on a ring, it threatens her perceived status if the lady next to her is wearing a $1,000 that appears to be the same size/value as Betty’s stone. Moissanites are not diamond simulants any more than white sapphires are. They’re simply a different stone. So they find reasons to try to knock Moissy people’s decisions–well if they choose moissanite, then they must not REALLY be able to afford an equivalent diamond (not always true) or they should choose a smaller diamond instead (not the right choice for those who are super earth-friendly or anti-marketing schemes). I, like you, could afford a sizable, flawless diamond and not sacrifice a damn thing besides having extra money in savings. But why would we want to? 

Congratulations on your upcoming engagement πŸ™‚ I’m sure your ring is going to be gorgeous! I can’t wait to see pictures when you receive it <3  

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee

alessia :  Thank you! I see from looking at your past posts that you have a 2ct/8mm H&A moissy – it’s gorgeous! Since you like moissanite, and you (think you) like my ring, you should look at @augustvintage on IG and check out their new Amora Gems coming out now. There’s also a video of my ring on there. πŸ™‚

Post # 44
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Busy bee

I am of similar mindset op. We opted for a 1.5 ct moissanite. We are in a social circle where 1.25-1.5 ct are the norm. But knowing what I know about moissanite & previously owning it, I knew I’d prefer it. We actually were going to inherit a 1.25 ct diamond from his family & just reset it. I wasn’t comfortable with that & convinced Darling Husband to save it for a later time- like an anniversary present. I love the look of moissanite, no one has questioned it bc the look fits our lifestyle & I don’t have to worry about losing it. People love to say they can tell the difference but most can’t in real life. I took my info to a jeweler & every employee there was shocked when I said it was moissanite & even questioned it asking if there was any way I could be wrong. They knew the text book answer as to how moissanite should look different but could not see a more splintery look even under the loupe. & the diamonds in the store appeared to sparkle the same under their lighting. 

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