(Closed) Moissanite Ladies: Can people tell the difference in your moissy and a diamond?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 76
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

ms2mrs94 :  Listen, Bees all over this site *claim* they can tell the difference…I’m not saying I don’t believe them, but… I literally can’t tell the difference. A large part of that is because I have big mental block of “Who the heck cares???” when it comes to other people’s rings. 

But can someone tell them apart? You sure as heck have people who say they can. And some people may be able to. But if given zero context, people have never been able to tell my moissy is a moissy. I mean, if I was walking around with a 5 ct moissy, then yeah, people are going to assume it’s not real. 

Post # 77
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

MrsMeowton :  bee i can tell but don’t say nothing how you know no body know yours.  it don’t have to be 5 carat to see it’s differint then real. I don’t care niether but don’t mean no body can’t tell.

Post # 78
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

ms2mrs94 :  I have a 2.0 ct F1 colorless princess. It’s gorgeous, but I think anyone giving it more than a passing glance would know it isn’t a diamond. Lifestyle wise, most people wouldn’t question it, since Fiance has the means to buy a stone of that size, but I am a klutz who loses things and neither of us think diamonds have any inherent value above and beyond being shiny. So we got what I wanted and it didn’t cost us the equivalent of a small luxury automobile. Bonus.

That being said, we’re having some back and forth over what to tell his mother. She has a 3 ct natural diamond that cost his dad about $60k back when he gave it to her for their 40th anniversary. She also wears diamonds everyday and I all but guarantee she’s going to know the difference. And we’re in a bit of a no-win because if we tell her it’s moissanite, she’ll judge that decision, but would probably lose her mind if she thought he’d spent what it would cost to buy a diamond of that size.

Personally, I feel like she can kiss my ass. I preferred moissy aesthetically as well as practically. I have no shame whatsoever about the stone and actually think the whole “made from stardust” thing is freaking cool. Fiance is dead set against telling them the truth. I’m trying to make the point that she’ll be able to tell anyway, and why embarass ourselves getting caught in a lie.

I dunno. The whole thing is dumb, if you ask me. It’s shiny and pretty and I love it. Why does it have to be any more complicated than that?

I say get what makes you happy. If “passing” is that important to you, I agree that getting a genuine diamond – or other gemstone – is the better choice. Usually people are happier with something they can be proud of without equivocation. If the only person you’re worried about is your Grandma, tell her the truth and that you got EXACTLY what you wanted. If she’s that snarky, I doubt she’ll be positive about it whatever you do, so you might as well just get what you like and damn the critics. 

 

Post # 80
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Bumble Beekeeper

ms2mrs94 :  

This looks like a good article , with certain  biases of course , but has interesting  info about  Canadian ( ie non – conflict , non-blood diamonds  ) , and about the differences between lab  created diamonds and diamond  simulants. Also clear info about  the genesis of Moissanite. Often you see people  indignantly saying it is not a simulant ,   which of course it now is, the original tiny natural  supply having  long gone .  

https://gerrythejeweler.com/moissanite-vs-diamond/

Post # 81
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239 posts
Helper bee

Does it have to be explained or revealed anyway? If when she (or anybody) sees it and makes a remark, maybe you could just say with confidence and authority “it’s pretty, isn’t it?” or “I love it”  and then go about your business.

Post # 82
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

elderbee :  actually moissanite was always created/manufactured to be a diamond simulant.  This wall Street Journal article from 1997 gives the history of Charles/Colvard and their “fake gem” (their words)

https://www.wsj.com/articles/SB885928599171771000

The original mineral silicon carbide is only Trace sized and Green colored….

Post # 83
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

mrstodd2bee :  I swear every post about moissanite you want to jump on and give your negative 2 cents. Yet you sport one as an engagement ring yourself…? Girl bbbbye!!

Post # 84
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

No one stares at it long enough to even tell. It really isn’t that serious I promise. Get the style, size, stone you want for the cost you want. It’s 2017. People need to get with the program. Thanks god for science because now I get to have want I want without sacrificing my first born. If you get a round brilliant it’s much harder to tell if that’s important to you but I say get what you want. Forget what anyone else says. I promise people who do have an issue can and will get over it!  

Post # 85
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Newbee

The only time I’ve ever been able to tell

is when it was pointed out to me under super bright jewlers lights and they were side by side. No one is going to care if it’s a mossy or a diamond as long as it’s not too big and gaudy. I think your ring will be lovely 

Post # 86
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2018

brownfam11 :  yes. ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ

Post # 87
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Blushing bee

Im not a rainbow person so I got a diamond, I also really love the crushed ice look of diamonds. I feel like you can only really tell the difference with proper lighting, also only those who know what to look for will probably be able to tell 

Post # 88
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Bumble bee

If you care that people will know then just don’t do it! I mean, it’s like getting breast implants then obsessing over whether people will notice/ask. 

xo

Post # 89
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: February 2020

My SO and I ordered a 2.5ct equivalent radiant cut moissy CC F1. We also had to think about what we were going to tell people. Family members wanted him to “Go to Jarrod”, but we were on a budget.

When I first learned about moissy I pretty much fell in love with them. In the end we went with moissy for more than just the price tag….we loved the colorless options readily available, the fire and brilliance, and the history of the gem itself. (yes, moissanite is a gemstone just like diamonds and rubys)

We’ve decided to stand behind our decision of purchasing moissy and confidently tell people who ask. Why not…? Another bee wrote it’s less about the pricetag and more about being a conscience consumer. For me I got what was important (to me), a larger center stone, ethically created, a great story, and a happy wallet. 

Post # 90
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Wannabee

I have a 7.5mm F1 H/A, never been asked either way. 

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