(Closed) Moissanite ladies/Yellow Diamond Ladies:

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@booEXcore:  My husband didn’t care what I asked for, he just wanted me to have something I loved. I went with moissanite because I prefer the sparkle over a diamond’s. My husband isn’t concerned with other people’s opinions of our rings, they are ours and it’s no one elses business what we decided to buy. Just make it clear that you’re not buying a ring as a status symbol. You’re the one who is going to be looking at it every day.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I didn’t have any trouble getting my Fiance onboard for a moissanite ring.  He has personal issues with the diamond industry, so it was really easy to convince him.  I think you should both be ok with whatever you decide.  I would just keep talking to him about it.  Maybe find some more photos of yellow diamonds and moissanite here.  If he sees how much other women love them, maybe it will change his mind.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Is it a moral issue for you? There are diamonds that are NOT blood diamonds, there are gems that ARE blood gems. Figure out what you want and what he wants at the core and you can find something that makes you both happy.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m having the same problem as you.  I’m currently trying to get DH’s stubborn manhood to budge and purchase me a very pale yellow sapphire ring instead of the white diamond he wants to get me.  I sometimes think men have a harder time letting these engrained in the brain ring traditions go.  I’ll give you the same advice other bees have gave me: give it sometime and eventually he’ll realize that it’s about what you, the woman he loves and is going to spend the rest of his life with, love, not what society tells you you should love. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@booEXcore:  Have you tried showing him warmer diamonds? Like in the K range? It will have the warmth you like without technically being a yellow diamond. And he will probably still think its colorless even though its not. There are some lovely rings on here with “nonfancy” warm colored diamonds.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I never had an engagement ring before we married, I have had a blue sapphire wedding band, a blue sapphire “ering” and am now going for a moissanite ring (new set due to allergy issues). My husband does not mind at all, all he cares about is that I love it (well, and now I promised him no more rings unless it is a twist tie!). Indeed, I got him turned onto sapphires and he has them in his own wedding band and loves them!

I did have to explain what moissanite was, as he too had only ever heard the “fake diamond” spin that seems to be common amongst some. At the end of the day, he was/is fine with me getting whatever I will love as much as he loves his own ring, and also has a better understanding of moissanite.

Like KatyElle said, our rings are for us to enjoy and symbols of our own commitment to each other, and really not about the approval or disapproval of others.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

my boyfriend has asked me at least 10 times if i’m sure i want moissanite. i think he’s giving me chances to change my mind. he keeps saying “are you sure you don’t really want a diamond? i don’t want you to be compromising at all.” which is sweet, and i understand, but i’m really excited to have a moissanite ring. i have other diamond jewelry that i WISH was moissanite now.

 

since i’m still calling him my boyfriend, obviously i don’t know if i’ve won this argument yet. hahahaha

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@booEXcore:  Did you check the sites we linked to in your KLMNOP thread? There is a lot out there in that color range, if we knew what size/shape/price range you were going for maybe we could find specific diamonds to show you.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

My Fiance wasnt originally keen on yellow diamonds but he slowly figured out it would make me happy and im wearing it not him

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

At first my Fiance was a little hesitant on Moissanite because he didn’t know what it was. But he was pretty open to it and as he learned more, he liked it. He also just wanted to make sure I was happy because I would be the one wearing it forever and looking at it everyday.

It’s a shame that our culture and society has engrained in us so much that colorless diamonds are the only legitimate option for an ering. Diamonds are beautiful but there are other gemstones that are also beautiful like Moissanite, or colored gemstones, or even the noncolorless diamonds (like fancy yellow diamonds)

If you really want a Moissy or fancy yellow diamond, try to explain to him that you really do want it and are not settling. In the end, I’m sure he wants to you to be happy. Afterall, you are the one who will be wearing it everyday and looking at it all the time. Doesn’t matter what other people think. Besides, Moissanite and Yellow diamonds aren’t exactly cheap either.

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