- 2 years ago
Hi gals and guys (I know a lot of you guys on here looking for advice),
I recently got engaged and decided to make a post on moissanites since I used this site so much for research. My fiancé and I did end up going with a C&C F1 round moissante so this may be slightly biased in favor of moissanites, but I will try to be as honest as possible.
Let me start off by saying that I never thought I’d get anything other than a diamond before discovering moissanite on here. I consider myself down to earth, but I do enjoy the quality of designer items. Therefore, I thought diamond was the only way to go for me.
My friends and I all recently got engaged. I am the only one with a moissanite, so we have been comparing our stones. They all have all have a 1.5-3 carat stones. The pros and cons list takes these comparisons into account and the comparisons we made with loose diamonds at the jewelry store.
—It is cheaper. You can get a bigger stone for less money. For me, I got a 7.5 mm because I wanted something that would be eye-catching, but not huge. I like a little more dainty look, but I think for those of you who like bigger stones this is an especially amazing option! You can get that 2-3 carat for a very affordable price. Also, for us, we were able to spend more money on a setting!
—It is sparkly. The moissanite does have more fire than some of my friends’ diamonds. One of my friends has a really good quality diamond and I feel like the sparkle is similar to that (mine might be slightly more sparkly).
—It stays sparkly. So this is surprising and I don’t know if its specific to our stones, but I feel like I have to clean my moissanite like never. I can tell its a little dirty, but it doesn’t get dull with not cleaning it like a diamond can. Maybe if I get it really dirty (I will report back).
—It’s still a forever stone. This is not from personal experience, but based on its hardness. No its not as hard as a diamond, but its harder than some other forever stones like a sapphire. I love sapphires though so also another good option to look into 🙂
—It is not a diamond. This will also go in my CONS. But yes, it is not a diamond. This may be a poor argument because I think a majority of diamonds are ethical at this time, but some people may be wary of the diamond industry’s history in this regard. Also, my fiancé was kind of against the diamond industry’s marketing strategies by making people think diamonds are rare and the only way to prove your love. At the end of the day, your love is your love and the stone/whatever else you choose as a symbol is totally up to you.
—It still looks like a diamond. I know a lot of people on here are like don’t try to pass something off as a diamond that is not. But at least at my size (1.5 ct equivalent), no one questions it. So if you don’t want to explain to every person you meet what a moissanite is. You don’t have to because NO ONE has asked me. In fact, people have told me what an amazing quality diamond it is… Then I’m like actually its a moissanite, and then they are like. WHAT IS THAT?
—You will get attention. I don’t know if its the fire of the moissanite or my setting, but I always get compliments only ring, even when I am in a group of other engaged girls with large diamonds. This could also be because my stone has slightly different properties than a diamond so people notice it. I don’t know. I honestly can’t tell the difference looking closely at a moissanite or a diamond when it is in a setting.
—It is not a diamond. If you are like I will never be happy if I don’t have a diamond. Get a diamond! Also, looking at loose stones, you can kind of tell a difference if you know what you are looking for. This may sound weird but looking into a loose diamond I slightly preferred the diamond, but then when looking from a short distance I preferred the moissanite. Now that the moissanite is set in a setting. I cannot tell the difference looking at other set diamonds while looking into the stone.
—You won’t have a diamond. This goes along with the first con, but from what I know diamond hold their value overtime. This is uncertain with moissanite because they are newly popular and its made in a lab, so is it even rare? I don’t know if I could sell my moissanite tomorrow for around what I paid for it. I don’t know if my ring is an investment like people say with their diamond. But why the heck would I sell it?
—It is slightly moody. I was in a wood panel room and when I had my ring at an angle the moissanite looked champagne. It rarely does this, but I actually think it is kind of cool. Most of the time it looks really icy and white. Maybe other types of moissanite or Amora Gem do not do this?
—They are made in labs. While it did occur naturally in a meteor. It is so rare that all the purchasable moissanites were made in a lab. If having a natural stone is important to you, look into diamonds or other naturally occurring gems. But like lab created diamonds, its a naturally occurring stone that they make in a lab.
Some things I learned along the way:
—I was worried about the rainbow flashes people talk about. While I do get rainbow flashes, its very similar to my friend’s high quality diamond. I get white flashes as well.
—I picked a round stone because I think the round has the best characteristics of the C&C shapes, plus I liked it the best. If you want a pear or an oval, I saw some really beautiful ones on instagram. I would look into the TrueGem brand. They are a family owned business that now makes their own moissanites. I think their ovals, emeralds, and pears are the best I’ve seen. I don’t think there are any good options for princess cuts among anything I have seen.
—FIND A JEWELER THAT SELLS THEM. I cant stress this enough. Find a jeweler that carries both diamonds and moissanites and compare them. If you live near a city, there are jewelers that definitely carry both. Funny story, I went to 2 jewelers that carried both and one was trying to hard sell me on a diamond because they think they are better, which is totally fine. While the other jeweler said that although he wants to sell diamonds he has to be honest… HIS WIFE HAS A MOISSANITE ENGAGEMENT RING. He was like I personally prefer moissanites as an owner of a jewelry store that primary sells engagement rings.
—Do your research. For example, I got a colorless stone and put it platinum because I think that is the metal that does a colorless moissanite justice. Additionally, I have heard that Amora Gems are amazing as well. Look into those if you can!
Sorry this was so much info! I hope other bees can chime in and give their personal perspective. I think this decision is very personal. The decision has to be right for you and/or your fiancé, whether you choose a diamond, moissanite, emerald, plain band, string, tattoo, whatever! Let me know if you have any other questions or disagree with anything I have said. I am constantly learning new things 🙂