Post # 1
Hi everyone, this is my very first post here. I’m expecting to be engaged soon and have been drooling over beautiful rings people posted here.
This post is not about my future engagement ring, though. My aging mother never had an engagement ring and lost her wedding band long time ago. Not sure what’s the story behind it but she never shared it with me. A few years ago, I bought a cheap CZ/sterling silver wedding set from Overstock out of curiosity but the size was a little too big for me. Mom saw it and commented how pretty the ring was so I gave the set to her. It was her size. However, a few months later, the CZ got cloudy because she works with her hands a lot and applies lotion to her hands daily. Apparently she liked the set and never took them off from her finger. Mom took out the cloudy CZ engagement ring and started to wear only the wedding band of the set, which had tiny CZs in half eternity silver band. It looked gray in her hand and I felt so sad when I noticed it. I found a half eternity gold band with real diamonds from DiamondBistro and bought it for her. She was so excited that it’s made of real gold and real diamonds.
I want to get her an engagement ring as well but I cannot afford a diamond ring myself. I was thinking about getting a moissanite ring but I’m worried she would be feel it’s a “fake” diamond. She will certainly appreciate my thought but I don’t want her to feel self-conscious about it when she wears it, worrying what others may think of it. She and those in her social circle don’t know much about jewelry, never heard of moissanite nor can tell the difference between the real diamond and CZ/other white stones, and in fact I’ve never heard of moissanite either until I started to look for my engagement ring. The only kind of diamond stimulant we know of is CZ which gets cloudy and hence it’s easy to tell.
Now my dilemma is whether to buy a decent size moissanite ring and tell Mom it’s a diamond (she will probably never find out and will live the rest of her life enjoying her “diamond ring”) or to look for an affordable, probably very small diamond ring (she will have a real diamond ring). What do you guys think?
Post # 2
Either get her a moissanite and tell her it’s a moissanite or get her a diamond and tell her it’s a diamond. Don’t try to pass one as the other, please!
Post # 3
I don’t know about your mother, but mine would never let me buy something as expensive as a diamong ring for her.
Could you tell your mother that it’s a lab-created diamond? It kind of is, I guess, and I understand not wanting to get into the whole moissanite explanation. Or maybe tell her moissanite is a clear stone and sister to diamonds?
Post # 4
Would you be upset if your husband bought u a moissanite and told you it was a diamond and hoped you wouldn’t find out? Moissanite is beautiful. But her the ring and tell her the truth. 👍🏽
Post # 5
winterinvirginia : moissanite doesn’t look exactly like a diamond, especially big ones. don’t lie to your mom. More people irl can tell our moissy and czs are not real diamonds then we want to believe. They just don’t usually say. a few are rude and say it!. In another recent post someone was not happy her cowrker called out that her stone sparkled differently than a real diamond, so at that point she told her it was moissanite. Prolly the whole office knows now! So mean. I have nothing against moissy I have one but you obs think it will matter to you mom if it’s a real diamond. So get her a used/preloved diamond ring. It will not cost near as much as new.
Post # 6
winterinvirginia : Nooo. Do not lie. If she was ok wearing CZ, I am sure moissanite will be fine. I highly doubt she expects you to buy her a fancy diamond ring. She will be thrilled that you were even thinking of her in the first place, no matter what it is!
If it is important to you, get her a smaller diamond. Mabe something like this since you mentioned she works with her hands.
Post # 7
My god you bees are so neurotic sometimes. It’s just not that serous. Everyone take a pill and relax. Don’t get stuck in the simantics.
OP, it’s a beautiful gesture. You do whatever YOU think will make your mom happy.
Post # 8
Such a lovely kind thing to do for your mom. I’m sure she won’t mind in the slightest whether it’s a Moissy or a Diamond, in fact if you tell her about Moissy and show her all the amazing rings on this site she might want a Moissy!
Post # 9
Don’t tell her it is a diamond if it is not, that can end up really embarrasing for her at some point. Either someone will tell the truth to her face and she will go on about how her daughter would not lie to her, or people might whisper behind her back, which would be very embarrasing too, it could easily ruin her “reputation”, and trustworthyness among others, and if she would ever find out it would be very mch more hurtful to be fooled into owning something it is not than to just recieving a moissy in the first place.
If you feel she might feel uncomfortable wearing a moissy, buy her a white sapphire? Or a blue one? Or a morganite? Or a amethyst? Emerald? Ruby? If she is rough on her hands, put it in a bezel! 🙂
Or even a black diamond if she would be into that! I read they are a lot cheaper than white ones! 🙂
Post # 10
winterinvirginia : I’d get her a moissanite and after she sees it, explain to her what it is. If she was ok wearing cz then I’m sure she will be ok with a gorgeous stone that will last forever!! Leave it up to her weather or not she wants to Pass it off as a diamond. As for size I’d go with a 1 carat stone that would be perfect!
Post # 11
I don’t see the issue of buying her a moissanite and just not mentioning the word moissanite. After all, it was mentioned that her friends don’t know the differences between white stones. I am also kind of in the same boat. My parents were immigrants and so my dad never had the luxury of buying her a ring. Now that their kids (AKA my siblings and I) are all grown up and no longer leeching off of them, my dad asked for my assistance to buy her a ring with a white stone. He gave me $700, so of course a dimaond is out of the question. I was able to find one on moissaniteco that I knew my mom would love. Neither of my parents will probably know it’s a moissanite or non-diamond. Honestly, I think just the fact that my dad is finally able to do this for her is the most amazing part. So I don’t think it really matters whether you tell her it’s a moissanite or not. The other bees freaking out are probably just self conscious because they spent tons of money on a diamond and don’t want a “fake” diamond (it’s really just a diamond stimulant) to outshine their own diamonds, because personally I think moissanites are absoutely fabulous. Did I mention they’re also a fraction of the price? WIN for me 🙂
Post # 12
jenebbuh : why do moissanite owners always think diamond owners believe their stones outshine ours? That’s probably true for really included diamonds but don’t generalize. Some of us are sporting 2-3 carats of diamonds that are eye-clean, without worrying about price tags, or savings, or down payment for a house. It’s not our fault it worked out that way for us and we can actually afford the stone and size we want. I’m sick of apologizing for doing well and somehow being shamed for it. For once have a moissanite and stop mentioning diamonds in your reasoning.
OP, one reason not to lie is to not have your mom be blindsided. In the event she’s with a group who knows moissanite and she claims hers is a diamond, she would be branded as a liar–and why lie about a ring? It’s really such a small thing in life. She’ll be branded petty. WITHOUT HER KNOWLEDGE. If she wants to pass it off, she can do that on her own. Lying to her is just creating a future drama you will probably get stuck in.
Post # 13
bibilicious : what you said: “Don’t tell her it is a diamond if it is not, that can end up really embarrasing for her at some point. Either someone will tell the truth to her face and she will go on about how her daughter would not lie to her, or people might whisper behind her back, which would be very embarrasing too, it could easily ruin her “reputation”, and trustworthyness among others, and if she would ever find out it would be very mch more hurtful to be fooled into owning something it is not than to just recieving a moissy in the first place”
Exactly right. Lol at those with sims who think everybody has no idea and are totes fooled.
forgotusername : You’re right.
winterinvirginia : She’s your mama, she will be happy with whatever you get her. Get her a moissanite if that’s what you can afford but tell her.
Post # 14
forgotusername : LOL first of all, I’m actually not a moissanite owner. But nice try. And nowhere in my post did I mention diamond owners, I was referring to the bees freaking out who probably own diamonds. Not the same thing as “diamond owners”. So I think you are generalizing and not me. If you can afford it, good for you. Just because I can afford something doesn’t mean I’m always going to buy it. But if you chose to spend your money on a big diamond, that’s on you. But i think we can all agree that it’s easy for people these days to go into debt for whatever reason, such as a diamond, wedding, or even a house. Like really, something in my post obviously offended you, and I’m not sure why. And I specifically stated “PERSONALLY I think moissanites are fabulous”. So it was obviously my personal opinion. Please calm down.
Post # 15
jenebbuh : yes I choose to spend mine on a diamond and proud to. I don’t really care about what you choose to do with your money so spare me the “I won’t buy a large diamond even if I can” speech. Since I don’t care much for how people spend their money or credit on, then I don’t agree on your judgement of people spending habits–they can go in debt, be bankrupt, for all I care. Sorry I just don’t give a fuck what people do or not do with their financial lives. That’s their right to do as they please.
Maybe if you can spend less time being judgy about peoples money/ring/credit/cash, you won’t say such silly diatribes against diamond owners.