- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Okay, before responding to my post, please read all of this and try and be nice. I know this is a touchy topic, but I want some helpful advice and thoughts, no rude comments. Let’s try and keep it respectful. (and this might be long)
So here’s my story…
Me and my Fiance got engaged Jan 1st 2010. He didn’t propose with a ring, he had a very small budget, he bought me a bow shaped ring with small diamonds as my engagement ring, I loved it, but it was uncomfortable to wear so we had to return it. Afterwards I started researching moissanite after seeing it posted on here so much. I fell in love. It was in our budget, I could get the big sparkly size I wanted without the $$$$, it was earth friendly, it was beautiful, and it just sounded so much like me, if a stone could be like a person. lol!
So, we ordered my moissy online, I got an enhanced 1ct. and was so excited to get it! My best friend knew that I was looking into getting a moissy but she didn’t know that we ordered this one. Now, I got my ring and my Fiance kept saying that “what if people ask if it’s real?” and things like that…I said, “well it is real, it’s a different stone than a diamond, yada yada” In all, I know that it’s hard to explain about moissanite and wasn’t planning on explaining it unless someone asked if it was moissanite or not. So, we meet with my best friend and her boyfriend after I recieve my ring (neither of them know that he purchased it) and what does my Fiance decide to tell my best friends boyfriend while they’re off together at the bar? That its a diamond. great. Now what do I do?
Because I didn’t want to embarrass him, because my bff’s boyfriend is very uptight and judgemental, I went along with it, but not really saying anything about the particulars. I just kept saying that it was gorgeous and how much I loved it etc etc. But now, I feel bad. I love my moissy and I didn’t want to keep it from anyone who asked what it was, but now my bff and her boufriend already think its a diamond, do I tell them otherwise and embarrass both me and my Fiance for lying about it? or do I keep my FI’s pride and not hurt his feelings and not say anything about it at all?
Now keep in mind, I’m not ashamed of my moissy at all, and neither is my Fiance. My Fiance blurted out to my bff’s boyfriend that it was a diamond, when they had been drinking and her boyfriend was being a tight wad saying that he’s going to get her a daimond like mine yada yada, making it sound like anything less was unacceptable. So my Fiance being a man and not thinking about it beforehand just said it was a diamond and went along with that…so then I’m stuck because the situation was totally awkward, and you would understand if you met this guy, even though I know it shouldnt matter about what he thinks, etc.
Anyway, I made this post not to get hell from others saying that I shouldnt pass my moissy off as a diamond, because I dont do that nor was I trying to. It was a stupid situation and all due to some alcool and man talk I got stuck here, and its just all confusing. haha My Fiance I guess didnt want to feel like less of a man by giving me a moissy, since he didnt know all about it, he just got it because thats what I wanted. So I guess he thought it was a “fake diamond” instead of knowing that it was a different stone all together.
So here we are…hiding this “secret”. My mom, his mom, and one of my other best friends knows that its a moissy, no one else does. If someone asks if its a diamond, or asks if its a moissy, we say no its a moissy, or yes its a moissy, either way we dont try and say, yes its a diamond…except for that situation above that I just described.
So go ahead, fire your thoughts. But please respect my wishes on not wanting rude comments.