Moissanite-Too big, too flashy

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 31
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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mrstodd2bee :  I have a genuine question (and I’m sorry to derail your thread OP!) I always see you saying that the vast majority of people see a “diamond stimulant” and secretly judge and think it’s so awful but are too nice to call the owner of the ring out… so for myself and other moissanite owners who get many kind compliments on our rings, I’m just wondering — does that mean those people just feel so bad for us with our non-diamonds that they pretend to like our rings? 🤔

OP, don’t let the fact that it’s a moissy scare you away! Like I said before, I just think the size of the setting is what’s a little “much”. But it’s very lovely and those stones are gorgeous! It’s just that if you’re wanting something a little more “subtle”, then resetting it would probably be your best bet 🙂

Post # 32
3343 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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citizenerased14 :  you’re reading your own negative interpretation into comments that are typically made about moissanite by *many* posters. No one said anyone thinks it’s *awful* or will *judge* anyone for having a simulant. They are what they are. Pretty and budget friendly but they just don’t look or sparkle exactly like diamonds as many others have often said ’round here.  If someone is concerned about that, as op is,  then they should probably get a diamond. Why have the extra worry about who may know ya know?

ETA since you asked.  Yes I do think there are probably people in yours and other moissy owners that are aware that it’s not a diamond.  However if someone really *wanted* their miossy, it shouldnt matter who is aware/ notices that it’s not a diamond….

Post # 33
10399 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I think it’s a lot but that’s because of the way it’s set. I would have the stone dropped into a different setting personally. 


Post # 34
2807 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

I don’t think the problem is that it’s moissanite. It’s that your whole ring is just too big. It looks like custome jewelry or something becasue of the big halo too. I would just tone down the setting and keep the center stone if I were you.

Post # 35
1400 posts
Bumble bee

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gibouep :  It is a bit large; people who know your lifestyle likely will wonder. Plus, moissanite is often noticeably different than diamond, especially at larger sizes. People may not say anything or they may just notice something is off. That being said, if you are budget constrained you may want to consider resetting the center into another simpler ring or pendant or selling it and placing a gemstone in the original setting: (1) the original setting attracted you initially (2) people don’t usually scrutinize side stones (3) they may be more distracted by the more unique choice of a gemstone center rather than a diamond (4) this may be more visually pleasing as many posters have noted that from afar the stones seem to blur together.

Post # 36
6953 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I like the floral look of the ring and I think you have the hands to pull off a larger ring (if you have the style and temperament to match). I agree with those saying to consider wearing it as a rhr if you don’t want to keep it as your ering and don’t want to dismantle it to make other jewelry pieces.

Personally, I think it’s doing too much of everything. The center stone is sizeable, the halo is large and then there’s stones down the shank of the band, too. There’s no restraint anywhere with your ring (and I’d have this exact same thought if it was made of diamond or some other “natural” gemstone or solid gold chunks). It’s just a lot of every design element.

I think you should revisit what your style is and what you want your ring to look like and how you want to feel when you wear it. If you feel that this ring (or some parts of this ring) could contribute to that for you, then I think you should work with it, maybe redesign it and try again. If you don’t feel like you can be happy with it, then I think you should try something else.

Separately, based on your response to the negative feedback, it sounds like maybe you were hoping for more positive responses (which makes me wonder if you do like your ring, you’re just worried about what others will think or say). I think you need to have some brazenness and courage to really be yourself in the world. If you love your ring, aside from what anyone else might say about it, then I’d encourage you to keep wearing it and loving it and be the one to make big ass floral halos a thing where you are.

ETA- your big ass floral ring inspired me to pull out my big ass floral rhr so you’re already an influencer 😉

Post # 38
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I agree with princessandthepear, I would just reset it. The sidestones are what makes it a little over the top. Also, as someone who got a diamond from family after getting a moissanite and tried wearing it instead, I went back to moissanite. Diamond rainbows just aren’t the same. If you like moissanite and think it’s pretty, don’t let other people’s potential opinions sway you away from something you like because at the end of the day, nobody really cares that much what anybody else is wearing.

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