Post # 1
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Busy bee
Hi bees,
My boyfriend and I have decided to save some money and get a moissanite for my engagement ring. I like sparkle, and maybe I’ll upgrade later, unless I stay completely in love with my moissy… who knows?
While I am perfectly happy with the decision, I do anticipate some weird questions from my mom/family, my advisor, etc. Help me, what reasons can I find to justify our decision to buy moissanite? I don’t want to bring money issues or sparkle up as reasons because my family is very likely to tell me that I’m superficial if I say that. They’re a very old fashioned family of doctors and intellectuals… you know how that goes.
I also want to make sure that I don’t just pass it off as a “fake diamond” since it is a stone in its own right. Too bad they can’t actually give you the genuine moissanite, all of them are created. I’m trying to think of how to explain how it’s different from CZ in terms of simulating a clear stone like diamond…
And just to make it clear: I LOVE our decision to go with moissanite. I’m the one who suggested it. I love everything sparkly and unique, and this one’s both! This is more about making sure this doesn’t affect my image in my family’s eyes.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
Personally, I wouldn’t say anything about it being a Moissanite unless someone asks. Most people don’t go around saying, “It’s a diamond!” when someone asks to see their ring, so why would Moissy be any different?
If for some reason someone asked what kind of stone it is, I would tell them that it’s Moissanite. If they don’t know what moissy is, I would simply say something along the lines of “Moissanite is one of the hardest gemstones out there that has an incredible sparkle. The sparkle’s what really drew me to it, plus I really wanted something that was unique! Doesn’t it fire like mad?!”
I wouldn’t mention anything about money or possibly upgrading later. If you and your SO love your ring, that’s the only thing that should matter.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I totally agree. No one needs to know! There is no reason to tell them.
Post # 5
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Honey bee
I have a moissanite, and no one has EVER asked if it was a diamond! Don’t worry about it, and when people are like, “oh, what a beautiful diamond!” you get to just smile and be like, “why thank you!” 🙂
(btw, I LOVE it! feel free to PM me with any questions!)
Post # 6
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Busy bee
I have mossainite and EVERYONE thinks its real. I NEVER tell anyone its not real because it doesn’t matter. If they look at it they automatically assume its a diamond because it looks like one. My Future Mother-In-Law told my Fiance he HAS to get my a diamond and that every girl wants a diamond (I DONT) and that I have to. Before I got the ring he showed her and she nearly died because it was the prettiest diamond she has ever seen….little did she know it was mossainite. Everyone asks me if its real because they cannot believe my Fiance bought me such a gorgeous ring. I don’t even want to upgrade to diamond actually. After reading about conflict or blood diamonds it’s turned me off. Plus from personal opinion, I think actual diamonds are overrated. If you bought a diamond and left the store and wanted to sell it or pawn it you would not even get back HALF of what you paid. It’s insane. Diamonds were a girls best friend initially because they were considered rare back in the day, but they arent anymore.
Honestly, don’t worry about what your family will think because they will not tell the difference AT ALL. don’t worry. I was scared too, but I’ve been into many jewlers looking for wedding band ideas and I had to actually TELL THEM it was mossainite because they thought it was diamond.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Thank you ladies! We have to tell our families because otherwise they would freak out about us spending so much money to buy an equivalent diamond ring of such quality and sparkle 🙂 I’m sure that my parents will be fine with it as long as it’s not CZ (they can be a little stuck up sometimes). And I love your answers for the other stuff! If someone assumes it’s a diamond I’ll let them think it is, and if someone asks I’ll let them know how rare moissanite is as a stone. Great! Thanks!
Post # 8
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Helper bee
Honestly, I wish we’d gone with Moissanite! I think it’s smart to save the money for other things if you don’t HAVE to have a real diamond. My Fiance just bought me a white sapphire ring for my bday to wear on the honeymoon and I’ve been wearing it on my left hand for kicks. It’s about 1 carat in the center, with a pave halo and pave on the band. People stare at it and compliment me on it constantly. Everyone just assumes it’s a diamond. I didn’t insist on having a “real diamond” ering, but at the same time I didn’t want people to think I had a “fake” ring or that my Fiance was a cheapskate. If I’d known how easy people are to fool, I’d definitely have considered a diamond substitute 😉
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@seven12: We’re getting it because we didn’t want to spend a lot of money on a diamond. I also wanted something that sparkles more. I think it’s just important to realize that the moissanite is not a diamond substitute. We didn’t want that. It’s a stone in its own right, just like your white sapphire ring.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
@squeak: I didn’t mean literal diamond substitute, as in CZ. I meant substitute for a diamond, like instead of wearing a diamond. Sorry if you were offended, I definitely wasn’t knocking Moissanite or insinuating that white sapphire is superior…
Post # 11
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Busy bee
@seven12: Oh, haha don’t worry. I didn’t take it that way at all, I just wasn’t sure how familiar you were with the stone. Moissy is definitely a substitute for diamonds in my case, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’d rather spend more money on my wedding or redecorate my home with that equivalent money for a diamond of that quality and sparkle. I still think there’s some stigma with CZ and it can cloud and it’s softer, so I’d rather not get CZ.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
@squeak: I think that sounds like a great plan! I truly wish my Fiance had known about Moissanite before we started looking at rings. I secretly like my sapphire ring a little more than my actual ering. It’s more my style and I love that I don’t have to fret about something happening to it. It makes me feel sooo guilty that he spent all that time and money finding THE perfect diamond, when I would have been just as happy with something else :-/
I totally agree about the CZ stigma, though. It really does cloud over time. I’ve had it happen with almost all my costume jewelry, even the more “high end” stuff!
Post # 13
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Busy bee
I’ve wondered the exact same thing! My SO and I purchased a loose moissanite stone that we’ll have set after he proposes, and I’ve wondered what I would tell someone if they asked “Is it real?”. (Hopefully no one does that!)
I’m still unsure of what I’ll say since I know the news will travel fast if I tell someone it’s moissanite, so I suppose you should decide if you’re comfortable defending your decision to buy moissanite.
I usually explain moissanite as “the hardest gemstone next to diamond, and it has more fire and more brilliance”, but I *really* like ChicChick’s description above: “”Moissanite is one of the hardest gemstones out there that has an incredible sparkle. The sparkle’s what really drew me to it, plus I really wanted something that was unique! Doesn’t it fire like mad?!” – Awesome.
It’s a pretty tough call when your family thinks traditionally like that… 🙁
Post # 14
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Helper bee
@lumos:
aww I really want a moissanite ring myself, but I doubt my Fiance would even consider it if I told him its not a ” real diamond”- He doesnt care but because my folks made it clear that I have to have a stinkin diaomond, he wouldnt wanna fool em and get a moissanite.. even though, thats what I really want, and theyd flip .. meh, Get whatever you find prettiest and omehing you trully want! If someone asks, jus say ” Yes its real.. a real moissanite” Haha, you aint lying !
Post # 15
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Helper bee
Hello!
I have a moissy and I love telling people about it. Nobody has ever actually asked me if it’s ‘fake’ or if it’s a ‘real diamond’, which leads me to believe most people think it’s a diamond, but if they seem interested in the ring I always proudly tell them that it’s a moissanite, and then go into the spiel about how cool moissanite is haha. And without further ado, my ring!
Post # 16
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Busy bee
@LoverFace2000: Oh that’s really cool, so you tell people it’s a moissanite! What do they say and how do they react? I love that!
@al1988: aww, i’m sorry about that. Families can be tough, my folks could be judgmental too, but they know I don’t give much of a damn about what they say or think, so they’ll be happy for me anyway… I’ve trained them well, LOL!
@lumos: I think I would like to say it’s a moissanite rather than lie to people. If I had gotten CZ, I might have lied. But moissanite does not have such a stigma, and I just love it as a stone!
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