Post # 1
Bees, I need your help.
I always wanted a diamond for my engagement ring – it’s just what I pictured. I don’t want a rock, but I have fairly large fingers, and I wanted a stone with enough finger coverage to not look tiny. I finally tried on some rings over the past couple months, and I started to realize this would mean about a 1ct center stone (I’m almost always not a fan of halos, so a smaller one surrounded with stones wouldn’t work). I started to play with numbers and realized this would put my ring in the $3500-$4000 range, which is more money than my SO and I should be spending on a ring. I also can’t wrap my head around the idea of spending several thousand dollars on a piece of jewelry. I’m a generally frugal person and that seems humongous to me.
Well last week I had an epiphany…it was like a switch flipped. I started looking into moissanite and I became hooked.
I got to try one on last weekend!! and it was beautiful, but the first thing I noticed was that it throws off rainbow sparkles, as opposed to the white ones from diamonds. I’ve heard some people complain that the rainbows make the moissy look like costume jewelry. And I don’t know if that would lead me to regret it later on.
Then I think of some of the ones I’ve seen on here – especially @desertgypsy, whose ring blows me away every time I see it – and I think they look just as classy and beautiful as diamonds.
My SO wants me to give him an idea of what I want and I’m *this close* to pulling the trigger and telling him I definitely want moissy.
What are all you guys’ thoughts on the rainbow vs. white sparkles? Has anyone had a moissy become dull? I think those will be my deciding factors.
Post # 2
My Moissanites have never become dull – just like a diamond you have to clean them because dust and gunk (so technical!) can build up. I just use some Dawn dishoap, warm water and a toothbrush on most days. Once a month I use a sonic cleaner. As for the rainbows vs white flashes, they are brilliant and beautiful.
Post # 3
I LOVE the rainbow sparkles!! I think it’s one of those things that you love or hate…can’t speak to dullness yet. Sorry!
Post # 4
I have moissanite rings and diamond rings. On this board, you’ll find a lot of Bees say they can’t see a difference between the two. In my experience, moissanite does not look like a diamond. The over the top rainbow flash and the cut are just a dead giveaway. I’m not always able to tell in pictures, but IRL it’s much more apparent (as you’ve already seen).
If you can appreciate moissanite for what it is, a beautiful sparkly stone, that’s great. But if you get a moissanite and you really want a diamond, you’ll be disappointed. If you know you want a diamond out of your budget, get a lovely moissanite stand in for now, and upgrade to the diamond you really want later down the line.
Post # 5
If you are concerned about rainbow sparkles then maybe consider a cut other than round brilliant or Hearts & Arrows. The step cuts, cushions, ovals, and OECs have less of a disco ball effect.
Post # 6
I’ve been wearing a mossianite ring daily since 2008. It’s still as beautiful & sparkly as the first day I got it!
Post # 7
If you truly want a diamond, you will not be happy with a moissy. They are different visually IMO. I would start out with a diamond you can afford at the moment and upgrade later.
Post # 8
I 100% agree with PP. I’m one of the people who can tell the difference right away with moissanite, and it seems like you are too if you noticed right off the main differences between the two. Not to say EVERYONE will know right off, but there’s definitely some obvious differences between the two.
I generally don’t encourage people towards moissanite if they really want a diamond.. If you LOVE moissanite for it’s unique properties than get it, you’ll be happy. If you’re trying to replace a want for a diamond, I’d pass and stick to a diamond I could afford.
Maybe do what my sister did and get a wedding band now, and then save for the engagement ring you want and get that to exchange at your wedding?
At the end of the day it’s just a ring, but it tends to become a sentimental piece of jewelry so I would try to get what you love!
Post # 9
I have a moissanite solitaire and a diamond three-stone ring, as well as several other diamond rings from my first marriage. The moissanite does throw more colourful sparkle but I actually prefer it. I find my diamonds a bit boring now. I miss the gorgeous sparkles if I ever swap them out, which I rarely do because the moissy is just so beautiful! I don’t regret my choice. To get a 2ct diamond would’ve cost more than I could ever justify spending on a piece of jewelry, and I would be waaaaaayyy to nervous to wear something that valuable anyway!
Post # 10
I got a moissanite and it’s really different than a diamond to me. The differences might be less noticeable with a 1 carat (I have a 1.5). They’re similar enough that I’m ok with it for now, but I’d be lying if I said I won’t someday upgrade to a 1 carat diamond some day. The cut is the main difference to me. I’d say if you get a hearts and arrows cut, it might look more like a diamond cut, rather than the standard “round brilliant.” That’s even assuming you want a round cut…
Post # 11
There’s only some rainbows in certain lighting. I find it happens mostly under artificial lighting like in Walmart. Sitting in my living room now with bright natural light it looks super white.
That being said, “rainbows” don’t bother me. I wanted a pretty sparkly ring which is exactly what I have.
Post # 12
Most of the time it’s white but it looks different in different lighting. I’ve attached some pics to show how it can go from white to gray to pastel to very colorful ☺️ I love my Moissanite because of all the colors it has and how it can look different. As long as that’s what you want I think you’ll like it ☺️ Also, no one has ever asked me is that a fake or said I bet that’s not real… I think most of us on the bee are super in tune with these things but the average person isn’t.
Post # 13
90% of the time, my moissanite is a creamy white color. Out in the sun, my moissanite throws flashes of color similar to a diamond. 10% of the time, under superficial lighting like grocery stores, my school’s gym, and movie theater lighting, it looks like a glittery disco ball. I was so self-conscious at first during that 10% of the time…not because I disliked the way it looked, but because it was such an attention-getter. Tons of people have grabbed my hand under these lighting conditions and complimented my ring. I’ve become more accustomed to the attention and I LOVE the glittery rainbow sparkles myself. 🙂
Post # 14
mrsbarack : People actually grabbed your hand? Are these strangers? That sounds so weird and annoying. If some rando just grabbed my hand I’d probably reflexively punch them…
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
IDK, you’re still going to spend a substantial chunk of change on a moissanite. They are definitely visually different from diamonds. If your heart has always been set on a diamond, I’d go with that. (Full transparency, I have a moissanite).
ETA: There’s also this: https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/does-your-moissanite-have-a-stain/
About 30% of moissanite owners get a stain.