- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2019
I wanted to make this review for those waiting bees torn between diamond and moissy – particularly those who want to pass it as a diamond. Before I share my story on why I ultimately replaced my moissy with a diamond, I wanted to tell you the key differences I noticed wearing a moissy for a few months.
Fire – The most noticeable difference is the fire. Moissy definitely throws colors around like crazy. I felt like because it was set in a diamond setting, it was even more pronounced. Believe it or not, this didn’t bother me at all. I really liked it and thought it was beautiful.
The cut – It is different. Everyone says rounds are the easiest to pass, but honestly the splintery cut was a dead giveaway for me. (granted I grew up around a lot of diamonds as my mom loves them and owns many) It bothered me SO much in ring photos, I would always tilt my hand in a certain way to try to disguise the non-existant facets. (I didn’t do my research well enough and got the FO brilliant and not H&A) The center also looked oddly pinched in some lighting (not sure how to describe it,but I’ve seen in in other moissy on the bee as well.
The color – I got the FO near colorless and it still looked too white sometimes for my taste – almost blue.
The depth – this sounds so vague, but there wasn’t as much depth for me as I saw in most diamonds and unfortunately, it was something I also disliked.
Overall – Moissy is a beautiful stone and a great choice for an engagement ring. I feel stupid to not love it enough for my e-ring. DeBeers has won again. lol However, if your heart wants a diamond, it will not satisfy this desire. Be aware of what you really want. If money is the issue, look into lab diamonds and antique rings. But, I do love it for what it is – a lovely stone apart from a diamond. (I am getting a moissy solitaire made as I type as a stand in for our honeymoon/when I want to change it up later this year)
I will attach photos of the different stones here, then include my story on how I made my decision on diamond for those who want to read it below the photos:
I recieved my ring from my wonderful fiance in October. We had it made by Heidi Gibson and I originally asked for a moissy center. When he gave me the ring, he asked me, “are you sure you don’t want me to replace it with a diamond? I had Heidi put one on hold for us just in case.” Thrilled and overwhelmed, all I saw was a beautiful sparkly ring and I told him no.
Fast forward a few weeks, (and i think this is because of my unique setting) my ring is generating a buzz in my church and grad program. People keep asking to see it over and over again. Every time, I feel dread that someone will ask if its fake. (it actually happened a few times) I’m obessing over comparing it to other diamonds, taking a crazy amount of photos and videos of mine in comparison to my mom’s diamonds, and going into jewelry stores. I’m consumed with the fact that this center stone is not a diamond. On top of that, because of my setting’s finger coverage people felt like my ring was huge for my age and questioning its ability to be real (I’m 24 and this added to my paranoia even more) I’m sure I would’ve gotten these questions regardless of whether I had a diamond center of not, but I was becoming ashamed and consumed with the fact that it wasn’t. (Not proud of that, but I’m being 100% honest)
I wasn’t enjoying my engagement season. I’m a people pleaser by nature and it drives me up a wall and comes up in therapy nearly every time I go. I called my fiance and cried and told him everything. He insisted we get the stone changed if it wasn’t making me happy. I still didn’t want to feel like DeBeers had 100% won (lol) so I went with a lab diamond from Clean Origin that was literally half the cost of the diamond I was looking at previously (same specs!) We got it reset and believe it or not, I still get snarky, “is it a real diamond?” comments due to the unique setting and the finger coverage that comes along with it. However, I am much happier now.
Long story short – Moissy is very very beautiful, but it isn’t a diamond. If you want a diamond – get one and save yourself the obsessing. If you go in with the mindset of passing it off, you will not be happy.