Moissy vs Diamond Review (both set in the same exact ring) PIC HEAVY

posted 3 years ago in Rings
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Bumble bee

Nice review! Beauty ring. I am not a fan of FO… I thought I wanted one until I saw them at the jeweller. I have a few standard near white and they are stunning, no rainbows and warmer. 

I agree your diamond looks much nicer  and deeper, the moissy reminds me of a cz, stark, rainbow, no depth. 

Although I really did not want a diamond, and I have 2 moissy erings, my fh could not get mind clean with moissy. He really wanted earth mined diamond. .. so now we are having one made. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

Your ring is beautiful. Remember that most of those snarky “is it real” come from a place of jealousy. Congrats on your new diamond. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 4
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Newbee

Love your diamond and moissy! Btw, you’re absolutely right. If your heart is set on a diamond, better to get the diamond and not “settle” for moissy. And this is coming from a moissy lover!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Your ring is beautiful with both stones but thank you for taking the time to explain your experience and perspective. I think of diamonds as looking more like sharp mirrors while moissy definitely has the rainbow-y “disco” ball effect and seems less “sharp” a lot of times. Both beautiful, but if you have your heart set on a certain one, it’s hard to be fulfilled by anything else.

It’s really sweet that your Fiance was so committed to making you happy, no matter what stone you picked. I think that’s the best part of the whole situation and bodes well for your future!

Happy Engagement Season!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

I don’t think the Forever One is supposed to be the most diamond-like moissanite. There’s a newer one out called AGS which is cut like an ideal AGS 000 diamond.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

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adriannamonet :  I just wanted to say that your setting is absolutely stunning and is giving me strangely classic/heirloom-piece vibes. It’s going to be such a wonderful piece to pass down one day (only after you turn like 90 when you no longer care how you look though—I’d wear that thing as long as possible and never get tired of looking at it because it’s so gorgeous lol).

 

also, thanks for sharing your experience. your fiancé sounds like such a kind and understanding person to happily comply in switching out your stone even after purchasing the ring and you wearing it for a while. congratulations on your engagement ๐Ÿ˜Š

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Such a stunning ring. I think you are absolutely right, that if you are really wanting a diamond, save up and get a diamond. Having a ring you wish was different is not good for anyone!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I think regardless between moissy or diamond you will be asked if it’s real because of the style of the ring you wear.  And the ornateness of it.

Post # 10
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Worker bee

First, your ring is gorgeous!!

Thanks so much for this review. This was articulated so well and is practically my exact story. I didn’t WANT to want a diamond but I very much did. I got a moissy and for the first week I was so happy. But then I started to see all the ways in which it wasn’t a diamond. And people kept asking to see my ring. Over. And over. Again. ๐Ÿ˜‘ No one flat out asked me what stone it was or said they thought it was fake, it was more passive aggressive. On top of that I didn’t really want to explain it was a moissy and I don’t think I realized that until I was wearing the ring.

After about two months we took the plunge and got a diamond. And I’m SO much happier with it. I stopped trying to make myself want something that I didn’t. Now, my catty aquaintences purposefully ignore my ring. And when it does draw attention and someone random says “wow that’s so beautiful! Is it a diamond?!” I can say yes with confidence and keep it moving, lol. But even if no one said anything, I’m still much happier when I look down at my finger. DeBeers won all the way with me. โ˜น๏ธI went with an “ethically” minded diamond and at least didn’t get it FROM DeBeers, though lol. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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adriannamonet :  I get what you mean about the depth, my boyfriend and I both noticed that. I think moissanite is a gorgeous stone in its own right and I really wish diamonds weren’t the standard so society as a whole could appreciate moissy. That being said, I do love the depth/shadow and cut of a RB diamond.

I think both are gorgeous and I can’t imagine being less than thrilled with either, but the fire in a moissy bothers my boyfriend. He said it looks “flat” and “washed out”, I think because they’re so bright and throw some pastels. Maybe in time I will have a preference but I don’t believe I have one now – because I wouldn’t try to pass a moissanite as a diamond, personally.

I do feel slightly guilty that my boyfriend and I are leaning towards a diamond. But we strongly considered a moissanite and since I’m neutral and he has a preference, it made sense to go with a diamond in this case. So I dont feel as bad because I tried to be as open minded and educated going into it – and I definitely couldn’t have done that without the lovely ladies here ๐Ÿ™‚ We have agreed on responsible sourcing whether it’s an Earth-mined Canadian diamond (though I’m still a little eh), a lab grown diamond, or an antique, as well as using recycled metals and buying from a reputable, American manufacturer.

I wish I had taken pictures when I saw the two stones side by side so I could help out other bees. Thank you for posting this, great thread! And congrats on your engagement, your boyfriend was sweet to hold a diamond just in case.

Your ring is gorgeous!

ETA I’m with you on the people pleaser thing, it’s my #1 issue in therapy. Just focus on what you love and screw the haters. There are too many people in this world to make anyone but yourself happy. The people who love you will be happy you’re happy, and anyone who isn’t, isn’t worth your time.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Moissy or diamond your ring is STUNNING! I love it so much!

but also wanted to say good for you for understanding what YOU want and getting it…your engagement ring is meant to bring you happiness every time you look at it and I’m happy thatll be the case for you now! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

2020bride20 : 

No one is castigates herself for wanting a cell phone. Cell phones use tungsten, iridium. tin and gold, and the mineral trade has fueled conflict in the African nations where they are mined.  Yet people feel bad about wanting a diamond. It’s baffling. I have to conclude that since diamonds are procured mainly for women, that the prejudice against diamonds is a case of misogyny, cleverly disguised as ethics and environmental concerns.

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adriannamonet :  Enjoy that beautiful ring!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2020 - San Diego, CA

Your ring is stunning (both moissy and diamond)!

I have a Heidi gibson ring too, and trust me, whether moissy or diamond—if you look young (like I do… I look like I’m a teenager sometimes), people are going to think it’s fake. Don’t let it bother you. You know what’s up! ๐Ÿ’• 

Post # 15
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Worker bee

sunburn (I still don’t know how to tag) – you are SO right!! This is actually one of the reasons I decided to get a mined diamond. With all the other things we use that are products of exploitation, for some reason diamonds are given the worst rep. It feels stupid to own an iPhone but be adamant against diamonds. Plus, I seriously doubt my James Allen diamond is as bad as a blood diamond. It’s probably more ethical than my iPhone.

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