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posted 1 month ago in Family
Post # 2
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13702 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you please reach out to a local crisis hotline? They can help you with immediate resources. You are not in a good situation, and your mom is not in a good situation. She needs to be ready to accept help, though, and until she is, there isn’t much you can do. Focus on helping yourself. Confide in a trusted adult – a teacher, a counselor, a friend’s parent, a police officer… anyone you can trust to share this situation with.  Find yourself a safe place to stay. 

Your mom will come around. She will get help. She will see that you are amazing, and she will be proud of you. Right now, she’s just lost in her own trouble and, unfortunately, isn’t able to see you, your love, your loyalty, and your dedication to her. But you are amazing. And I am proud of you for being here sharing your story. Please, talk to an adult and help improve your situation, which will hopefully also improve your moms.  

Post # 3
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79 posts
Worker bee

sadgirl123 :  This is a toxic situation. I would try to get out and move in with someone else. Have you been diagnosed with depression? Although people always say that, it could definitely be something else (anxiety, ptsd, etc) I recommend getting help asap. As for your mother, just because she’s your family doesn’t mean you have to be okay with this toxic behavior. You can love her from a distance which is definitely what I recommend. However I would seek help immediately. Even if it means getting law enforcement involved to be able to move from that situation. 

Post # 4
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82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

Where are you staying now? Are there adults there, and how much do they know about your situation?

Maybe you can reach out to a school counselor or social worker? They can be really helpful, first just to talk and get your feelings out, and second with practical solutions and ways to move forward. They can connect you to all sorts of resources. It’s their job to know what to do in situations like this, you’re only 16 so you cannot be expected to take all this on yourself. The fact that you’ve been out of the house for two weeks and your mom doesn’t even know where, and isn’t taking approriate steps to find out, is a really serious situation. She sounds like she needs help as well, because she’s failing you and she’s putting both of you in danger with a man who hits her. 

Post # 5
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3185 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

sadgirl123 :  as others have asked do you have an adult you can turn to? You need an adult other than your mom. She’s not in a position to even help herself. Please go to a trusted adult in Your life.

Post # 6
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858 posts
Busy bee

Honey, it’s never ok for anyone to put their hands on you. Remember you’re valued and youre worth living a nice life without fear. Reach out to your school counselor. Maybe a run away teen center for guidance. 

Things will get better. I hope you’re in school and I suggest continuing until you graduate and move on to some higher education so you can successfully be independent away from your mother. Learn healthy boundaries between you and your mom (shall you decide to keep her in your life). 

Post # 7
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137 posts
Blushing bee

sadgirl123 :  I grew up in an abusive home, I know what it is to feel alone and scared with no desire to keep going. But I have to beg you, they may have stolen your past, PLEASE don’t let them take your future too. I know it feels like nothing will ever escape you from the pain you are in but it isn’t true. There is a whole world of different people, places and experiences for you to find. Please keep fighting. I have replaced the abusers around me with a great support system, and although it isn’t always easy, I have created a life that is worth it. I promise you that you can too. Step one is to get you safe. Are you in physical danger from yourself or others right now? We can help you work out the next steps!

Please always feel free to message me.

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