- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
Hi Bees, i wanna know if im overreacting, being a bit*h or something…
Here’s a little background:
I lived in a conservative family (dad, mom, older 29 y/o brother and me), conservative as in “you won’t live by yourself until you get married”.
My brother used to be a mess, doing drugs, being an ass to my parents and all that, and i always was a good girl, had top grades, etc… i wanted my parents to feel proud of me. But they never really were, at least not my dad (lol, inb4 daddy issues). My dad is very … difficult and sexist and my mom is very submissive to him (long story).
My mom used to be nice with me, but there was a time when i started college in other state she went to live with me of course (so i wouldn’t end up like a crack wh*re, according to my dad… real charmer), and she made go through hell, she never let me go out, it was house-school even if i had the best grades. I know she did it because she was scared that my dad would do anything to her if something happened to me, she was responsible for me…
Anyway, i broke down, i even had a panic attack and in the end i said “fuck it, im going back to my hometown, at least there i have friends i can go out with”
Im glad i did, because i met Darling Husband in my new school, and so our romance began… not without family dramma… but that’s TOO long, maybe i’ll adress it in another post…
My parents were making my life a living hell and i couldnt afford to move out, so after 2 and a half years, Darling Husband and i eloped without telling anyone (but our witnesses), and then told my parents the news.
Fast forward 3 month, my mom started to get thinner and thinner. Everyone was blaming me. I even started to feel guilty, my mom devoted herself to my brother and i, she left her carreer as an Orthodoncist to have us, and my dad was always a douche to her.
But thanks to Darling Husband i realized that it’s not my fault, my mom made that choice, and while i’m thankful, i dont need to feel guilty.
I tried to talk to her so she focuses in something else, she’s 60, she (and all women in the world at that age) needs to find a new meaning in life, we used to call each other a lot, i visit her everyweek, etc.
But it’s getting VERY exhausting for me, i go to school, work, help my dad with his bussines, among other things.
My mom calls me from 2 to 4 times a day, and to be honest, i dont even know what to say to her anymore. it’s just like “hi mom… yeah…. im here working… and how are you?…. im fine ….” and then i go blank.
Today i told her that i love her but that she calls me way too much… but i’m afraid i hurt her feelings or something…
I dont know what to do bees, am i being mean? Any suggestions?
Thanks and sorry for the long post