Mom and FMIL complaining about desserts

posted 2 years ago in Food
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

Culver’s custard gives me a stomach ache, so I wouldn’t be able to eat dessert at your wedding.  If you have dairy free people, they wouldn’t be able to have anything either.  I see your wedding is in Nov, so maybe your mom and Mother-In-Law are thinking something that isn’t cold would be nice to have also.  

I would consider having a small cake or something else to complement your custard.  

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

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jellybellynelly :  No one complains when it is cake because that is the traditional wedding dessert.  Everyone expects there to be cake.  If there isn’t cake, it often surprises people and that’s why you hear complaints then.  

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper

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PaperQueen :  It was a response to people saying the expect more than 1 dessert. No, they dont (unless from a few pretty specific areas). So no, multiple desserts are not required. The poster above me literally said she would be disappointed with only one dessert, but literally no one says anything when the one dessert is cake. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

I didn’t say I’d be disappointed cause it’s one dessert. I just said I don’t like custard… and I’ve never been to a wedding with cake only so 🤷🏻‍♀️ But I also know plenty of people who don’t like cake and would be bummed if that was the only option so… I also never said it was required  to have more than one dessert. I said it’s nice to give some variety. Hardly anyone only gives one main course option for the reason that not everyone is guaranteed to like one exact dish. I don’t see why the same can’t be applied to dessert.

 

ETA: when I said I always like having two dessert I meant when I host any type of party or get together I as a host always like to serve 2+ dessert options. Not that I show up to weddings wanting two options. Also idk why weddingbee won’t let me type in front of tagged people’s names. I can only type before ugh  

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Post # 20
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Sugar bee

I will say that I really, really dislike ice cream and frozen custard, so I would be disappointed there was no cake or even a cupcake. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

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scherbet23 :  I like your brownies idea with the custard. I think that would go down well. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

We’re not cake (or really dessert) people either. We’re doing an ice cream sundae bar and a cake. I’m glad we’re doing the cake because the cake at the tasting was SO GOOD

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee

It’s your wedding. You are going to be married and your mom and his will have to learn to respect your boundaries and decisions. Now is a good time to start. Don’t back down. They keep bringing it up? Reply with, we made our decision and it will not change. Please stop asking. They keep bringing it up after that? Reply by completely ignoring their comments and changing the subject. Need help setting boundaries with them? Google DWIL, they have great ways of dealing with boundary stompers and repetitive questions like this. 

 

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Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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scherbet23 :  I can’t eat custard so I’d be a bit bummed that I couldn’t eat anything but it wouldn’t be the end of the world.

We had multiple desserts but only because my husband insisted on it.  We had gourmet cupcakes, ice cream (regular and lactose free so I could eat it), wedding cake and a bunch of different kinds of cookies.  We probably went a bit overboard and I generally don’t expect more than one desert at a wedding, but if you’re only going to have one desert, I would expect it to be cake.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

If you can afford it, yes I think it would be nice to offer at least one other option. Custard is not the most typical choice, so there may be more than a few people who won’t want it. I like your MIL’s brownie idea or the cookie idea. It shouldn’t cost an arm and leg to add a bit of variety. We’re only doing a cake, cookies, and fresh fruit.

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