Post # 1
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Bumble bee
My FMIL shopped online for her dress before my mom and I could go and start shopping for hers, although I know it’s customary for the MOB to get hers first so the MOG could avoid this situation, lol. We didn’t know which one FMIL picked. My mom picked her dress at the end of January, and for some reason didn’t want to share all the details right away with anyone because she wanted it to be a surprise. She loves the dress, it was the first one she tried and she didn’t want to try any others. I was really happy because my mom is very self-conscious about her body and she felt beautiful!
My mom last night mentioned she should probably make sure FMIL doesn’t have the same one since we know FMIL bought her dress from Macy’s as well. My mom emailed FMIL the pic of her dress.
This morning I received an email from FMIL – it’s the same dress. What are the odds haha. My mom’s is eggplant, FMIL’s is navy but it’s a very specific style with beading and there would be absolutely no question it’s the exact same dress.
FMIL was very sweet and asked if my mom would have a problem with it because FMIL didn’t care, and she would look for another one if there would be a problem. I just responded that I know my mom would feel uncomfortable in the same dress, even in different colors, and if she didn’t mind to look for another dress (FMIL did say she wasn’t 100% sure she would keep that dress anyway). FMIL said it was no problem.
Thank goodness my FMIL is so easygoing! Crisis averted!
Post # 3
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
@MsYankee: Oh my gosh what are the chances?? Thank goodness everything is working out here! Phew!
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
@MsYankee: thats hysterical, and thank God your FMIL is willing to exchange. not everyone is so lucky
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
@MsYankee: Wow, that’s such a huge coincidence. I’m glad for you and your mom that your FMIL is so easy-going and fine about picking a different dress.
Post # 6
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper
Of all the dresses in Macy’s? That’s crazy! Good thing they were both flexible.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
My grandma and my aunt’s MIL wore the same dress in different colors to my aunts wedding. Apparently every one ended up having a good laugh over it. We came from a small town with one department store, so it was very easy to do!
I don’t think we will have that problem, but I think you would always remember it!
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
@MsYankee: That’s crazy! What are the odds!? I am glad your FMIL is so understanding. It is nice that it’s working out!
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
Yeah I’m glad your FMIL was so great about it!
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
@MsYankee: Just shows that they both have excellent taste! 
I will say, it is really nice to see a positive post that shows all parties involved in a good light. Weddings can make so many reasonable people go completely over the edge. I’m glad everyone in your situation was able to be mature and open-minded.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
Your FMIL sounds like a wonderful person!
Post # 12
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Worker bee
It is really nice your FMIL is willing to exchange the dress but I think you put her in an awful position. I’m sure your FMIL didn’t want to start any drama so she just obliged to keep the peace. You are lucky to have such a wonder FMIL.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
My FMIL is definitely a great person and I’m so lucky. I know that other Bees would not have the same experience! I’m glad she offered first to find another dress if it would be a problem, instead of me having to bring it up first!
I asked FMIL not to tell my mom that she has the same dress as she is willing to pick something else and I don’t want to stress my mom out unnecessarily or make her feel bad that now FMIL has to find another dress. Like I said, my mom lit up when she tried this on and I felt so happy that she found something she felt beautiful in – so I don’t want her to have any negative associations with the dress.
@kermitandpiggy: She offered first – in her email she said she wasn’t sure she was even going to keep that one and she is willing to look for another one if it would be a problem at all. She had mentioned she would hold off shopping until my mom picked her dress (not to get the same color or dress) but she had ordered this one online and let me know, and said she wasn’t even sure she’d keep it (before we knew it was the same one as my mom).
Post # 14
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Busy bee
Funny! I had a similar experience but not quite the same. My FMIL sent me the dress she ordered online and it’s a champagne lace number. I sent a picture to my mom (who lives far away) and she literally said ‘Oh, I considered trying that on too but thought it looked too bridal’. Soooo now I cannot stop thinking is the FMIL dress too bridal and is my mom offended by it? In any case, I do not care so I am totally okay with it but feel your pain/relief as these things do happen!!!
